I would like to put it this way (please forget that Hijab is Allah´s order for a moment. It is not about religion now, this is about common sense)
- A society where men wear whatever they like, and women have to wear hijab to feel safe
- A society where men are taught that they can look but not touch and that women dont have to wear hijab to feel safe and comfortable.
Which society would you prefer if covering was not a divine order? Ofcourse you would choose the second one. So instead of feeding the idea of women as sex objects, we should teach men and dress as we like.
OK D_K, i will try to explain more.
Our society years ago till 1919 women were wearing things called Yaþmak...Ãts not Hijab, and not Burka, its smoething put on the face but actually doesnt hide it..it was worn at Osmanlý time
Came 1919 and it was revolution on 2 scales, politicaly wise, and women wise
Ãt was our whole nation against the British and it was the first time girls at the schools and women join, so women joint side by side with men and been killed also same like men
Since that time women took off yaþmak, and they didnt wear hijab and they wore like Westerns, hair styles, mini skirts..tight clothes..etc
That happened at cities, in country side they were more conservative.
At a time they didnt even know that hijab is an order from ALLAH, actually at cities people didnt know even they should pray, only elders knew it and they didnt teach it to youngers...what they really did was fasting at Ramazan, all kept that very much along of course with Salat...Ramazan was and still a festival on all counts!
Anyway, by time and due to wars, and many people started to read and know more about religion, after we sent our teachers to gulf and they saw women there wearing hijab, they started to search and bit by bit hijab started to get into our society
So actually you would see the daughter was wearing hijab but not the mother !
Or grandmothers putting scarf on their hair but not hijab, meaning not actually covering the hair, but they said our mothers at the good times were wearing like that...that is what haným wear when she goes out but without wearing long dresses or long sleeves
By the time daughters told the mothers that it is an order from ALLAH and not a tradition, taught the mothers, and now you see many women wearing it.
So actually in our society you dont wear hijab to feel safe...we had/have various code of clothes, and you can pick
So the point, wearing hijab or not wearing hijab are treated same here...because almost all families were having a mother or a sister or a relative not wearing it, beside there are many girls who dont wear it still.
You would listen to an expression called ´When im convinced!´ in my society it doesnt mean when im convinced that it is an order from ALLAH then i will wear, but it means, when im convinced that i will be capable of wearing it i will..and yes they know it is an order from ALLAH too...i was one of them !
So you see, you dont just have 2 cases of societies...but that is another case too.
A society where women have the chance to choose to wear or not to wear and they already took it off in the past and wear it recently
So i would feel more comfortable here actually, i would wear or not wear and at both cases men will look at me same because they know its my choice !
And i dont deny there are societies where its forced on them one way or another.
Edited (7/21/2009) by CANLI
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