WOW! This is amazing! Bit freaky tho, considering all these forms are to be learnt by us

So.. do i understand it right if i say that.. a relationship with a lover is a good one if it has both ASK and SEVGI?

Is it like, if you found your lifepartner, the one you want to marry.. SEVGI is always there, as a binding thing between the two of you. A magical, not touchable string that keeps you together as one. And sometimes ASK comes up in times of tickles in your belly or feeling to make love?

I'm trying my best to understand But it is quite difficult, not being perfect at English or Turkish !

Doesnt Sevgi include sexuality then? Because sexuality stays important when u go further into a relationship. When you feel your souls are one, i cant think that you wouldnt want to make love to eachother anymore.. Or would that be make sevgi to eachother

To me sexuality is included in love in a relatiobship.
Not in other kinds of love, such as in friendhsip and family-love. But for man-woman relationship (or man-man, woman-woman), sexuality is included in love and therefore is just IN the word love.

Yes.. i like that theory of ASK and SEVGI.. but i think in this case ASK is more like.. infatuation.. and sevgi like LOVE.

It cannot be stated that English word for love is not specific enough, because this depends on how and by whome used.

But i must say, i like it when languages are specific about feeligns and words, like turkish

In Holland, it is often said that one first falls in love, then loves, and when one loves, still sometimes falls deeper in love at special moments, such as a surprise flower on an ordinary day tho ur already toegther for many many years. The excited young in love feeling disapears, this is only because our body can no longer produce those feelings (!!) because it is tiring, but they still come up every now and then on special occasions. And i think that is eternity, sevgi.

Can it be said that you should be thankful for the day your love says SEVGILIM to you instead of ASKIM? Or is ASKIM just as powerful as SEVGILIM?

Do some of you sometimes feel like leaving all behind you and go to your love in Turkey?
Do some of you feel that all the tears you cry in lonelines slowly make a sea?
And that all the breaths you take alone blow your ship to him on that sea?
Do some of you feel so deeply touched when you hear turkish music?
Do some of you feel that you want to give in into this amazing explosion of passionate feelings for this special man? (or woman)
How can love be so deep, i sometimes wonder. I'm so amazed by all i feel. I feel like i wanna kiss turkish ground, then cry and be hold tight by my sweetheart.

I can only think of the safe feeling i had when i was in his arms. How can this strong feeling be?

Are there more feeling like me? And do they also sometimes feel like stupid love fools?

Or am i a lonely love junkie?

Hi

My boyfriend will be studyign for 12 years because he will do specialisation to cardiologist after becomign a doctor. He is 20 now and in his second year. That means he still has got 10 years to go and will be 30 by the time he's done wiht his unviersity education.
What do they do about 'such situations'? Because this is longer than 4 to 7 years.

Thanks in advance for your replies

I dont think anyone will read this, but im just bored


1.what kind of first impression do you
think people say when they first see you?
They'll think im very open and always joking, but when they get to know me better they'll see i dont easily talk about myself and that i joke about things that i dont wanna talk about!


2.what's one thing you like to do alone?
Reading

3.what is your favorite line to say when
you're scared?
Ehm.. what about.. Help?

4.how many drinks before you're tipsy?
Many except when im tired, then 3 is enuf to knock me off

5.did you ever have to beg?
Not for money no.. for attention, yes!

6.what kind of books do you like to read?
Almost anything, literature like Pamuk or Louis de Bernières

7.do you think you're cute?
I simply believe all my man says (a)

8.do you have a problem changing
clothes in front of your friends?
Nope, not at all. Thats what they're friends for!

9.favorite communication method?
Face to face talk, otherwise phone

10.do you care if others don’t like you?
Only if i care about them too

11.what do you eat when you raid the
fridge at night?
Strawberry cheesecake icecream

12.describe your bed?
Charcoal coloured blanket with a raspberry-red pillow

13. Spontaneous or planned?
Spontaneous, sometimes planned if necessary

14.do you know how to play chess?
Nope, i dont like any kind of bordgames

15.what do you carry with you at all time?
My cellphone, my agenda, a little cross that a religious very good friend gave me

16.what do you miss most about being
little?
The innocence of life and not knowing about the pain of the world

17.are you happy with your given name?
Yes

18.how much would it take to give up the
internet for 1 year?
Too much

19.have you ever been in a play?
Yep.

20.do you like yourself and believe in
yourself?
Im happy with who i am and i believe in myself, tho i must admit i need the light of canim for it.

21.do homeless, or starving people
sometimes annoy you?
No, i always buy their newspaper!

22.do you consider yourself to be a nice
person?
To the ones i care about, yes. Otherwise i can be pretty tough on people

23.do you spend more time with your
family or your friends?
Ehm 50/50 i guess

24.what's one thing you wish you could
do but can't?
Give all the homeless and hungry children food and a place to live and be loved. Take hate away from the world

25.what is your ideal marriage location?
Anywhere will be fine, as long as it is with my lover! But in an english rose-garden with family and friends and homecooked dishes would be lovely!

26.whats one instrument you wish you
could play?
Saz or bouzouki

27.something you love and hate at the same time?
I don't think its good to hate so i try not to

28.what’s one language you want to
learn?
New Greek and Russian after learning Turkish

29.what do you order at fast food restaurant?
McFlurry! But i rather not go to fastfood at all

30.have you ever pierced any of your body parts?
Only earrings but i didnt do that myself

31.do you have any tattoos?
No! And i wont ever have!!

32.would you admit to getting plastic
surgery if confronted?
I wouldnt get it in the first place But yes i would admit it.

33.one trait you hate in a person?
I'm not fond of dishonesty and the weakness of being afraid to tell what you feel to your loved-ones. Or bringing others down to look better yourself!

34.do you consider yourself materialistic?
No, not in the full-meaning of the word. Happiness is in untouchable things, but yes im glad i got an i-Pod and a pc.

35.what do you cook best?
Tomatoe-pie with pesto or just bacon&eggs

36.do you cry in front of your friends?
Yes ofcourse, part of the deal, eh?

37.if you were a body of water, what
would you be?
An ocean

That's definately not being unfaithful, but now ive fallen in such a deep love with Kadir, no other seems to be as beautiful as he is. I don't turn around to see the handsome guy that passes the street, because he wont ever be as beautiful as my sweetheart.

Looking at someone and realise he/she is beautiful, is not unfaithfullness, as long as you dont have the intention to do anything. It's like a painting: there's nothing wrong looking at a beautiful painting, but it ís wrong when you look at it and think to yourself "i wanna steal it".

The eye can not stop from seeing, not even love has the power to stop the eye from seeing. But love DOES have the power to stop from wanting things you can not or should not have.

No man or woman who has TRUE and pure love, would cheat. Not a turkish, not a dutch, no one. Because that is what love is, finding EVERYTHING you need in that person and yourself!

Isn't it also part of their 'need' to be the powerful one in the relationship..? (im not saying this is something bad though..)

Well to be honest i dont agree. My boyfriend gave me all of her albums when he visited me, as a present, because he knew i love her music. It is true that through the years her music became less 'traditional' but you can now also hear the life better in her voice. Gülümse and Tutsak are 2 of my favourites. but Bile Bile, (a song from Dus Bahceleri) is also very beautiful if you ask me. I think her new albums contain many 'commercial fillers', but in between 2 songs are really good.

I think it's worth to listen the new ones too. Eskidendi çok eskiden from Bahane is also nice and i read her new album, Kardelen, was made for a good purpose. I havent got that one yet, so im patiently waiting for my man to come and visit me in January

Does she still give concerts?