Well i live in Holland so.. we basically BIKE everywhere
Which is actually pretty scary, but taxis cost a fortune here. I live 15 minutes by bike from outgoing centre, i would've to pay 20 euros to take a taxi there and 20 to go back! That's the money i wanna spend on drinks and entry-price!

Well i dotn agree that when you want to marry someone, you wouldnt want to wait with it. My man has already said a million times 'i am gonna marry you, there's no other way, you got to be my wife!', but i know he doesnt wanna marry now. He's only 20, im 18.. He doesn;t make money yet. His reason not to marry yet, is because he wants a beautiful wedding and guaranteeing that he can give me a good life when i become his wife. He'll need to have a job for that so he has to finish his university first. I dont think it is always good to marry straight away.

But if he didnt even give a sad expression when you broke up, then he's probably not worth your love. But there's one thing you must understand: if you feel lonely when you are on your own, then you are not good company yourself. So get yourself a cup tea, bake brownies, cry for 2 days and then go on ! Life is only too short when you dont enjoy it enough

Hi

Another note on the not-trusting issue. It's not always a matter of not trusting YOU. When i told my boyfriend (we are officially together for 6 months now,but we've been deeply in love for almost 2 years,but not wanting to call an internet-relationship a real relationship till we'd have seen eachother.which happened 6 months ago.the reality was even better than the dream!he's simply gorgeous!)
Anyways. I told my boyfriend i planned to go out with my girls at night to a club outside my city. He didnt approve. At least, he told me i could go if i wanted to,but when i live with him in Izmir, he will not let me go out at the streets at night without him. He said there even wasn't discussion about it, because he didnt want his girl at night alone in a club full of strange guys, on the way home in the dark with creepy figures. I asked him if it was because he didnt trust me. But he said: i trust YOU, but i definately DONT trust all the cheeky creepy men you could possibly meet on the street.

And i think he's right. Im not saying that this counts for every guy ofcourse, but i know Kadir is sincere about this.

I think in Turkey that a woman is a woman and a man is a man. The men are very capable of making you feel like a real woman, they look after you, protect you. I guess that also makes them feel man: they are the strong and powerful in the relationship.

With my western background, i always wanted to stay independent, look after myself. I thot it was bad to depend on someone. I changed my mind. I like that feeling of being taken care of.. it's safe but not choking. If the balance in the relationship is right, i think it is very precious to have a man that wants to protect you always and everywhere because it makes that you also want to take care of him. We have a long distance relationship, but when he was in my house, i just loved to make him tea, sit on his bed, feel female and sweettalk. Maybe it makes them feel more male, but the fact that he has such a power on me, makes me also feel powerful about this love

Well, maybe he just rings your phone to let you know that he thinks about you? Because calling is really expensive so ringing is a good way to let smo know that you are doing okey and thinking of him/her. This is what i do with my lover when one of us hasn't got money in his phone. We just call and hang up. It just means something like.. askim i think of you, i hope you are doing fine, i love you !

Maybe you can go to a special phonecompany where you can call. Just like a cybercafe but then with phones. Its cheaper then calling at home and the connections are good

Good luck!

Pff.. yeah really scary.. and i am planning to move to Izmir next year

So the earthquakes might go on for weeks and weeks?

Hi everyone

My boyfriend lives in Turkey, he has visited me in May. He needs a visa to enter Holland, btu the first time he got rejected (the letter they sent him was in DUTCH! so he couldnt understand it and coult not reply on it. When i read it when i was in turkey, it didnt even say a reason!!!)

When he came in may, he came for a cultural event, so the organisation gave him a visa.
But this time, in january, i want to invite him over to get to know the rest of my family.

I heard something about visa invitations . How can i send him one and what does that exactly mean?! Thanks in advance!!!

I totally agree with Dr. Amin. My long-distance-relationship is actually built on the same things he said.
It's indeed not easy, because you live 2 different lives and you cant put them together tho that is waht you long for. My boyfriend and i just made several times a day that we spent together. We drink tea together And sometimes we both rent the same film and go watch it together with the webcam on msn. It's funny. You just see another dimension of relationships. Next year i will move in with him, after i passed my exams. Then we will see the other dimension of the relationship like most people have, but i think with a different point of view: we prooved our love by our patience and we know we can fight for what we aim for.

Im not saying distance-love is more precious than other loves when they work out,because each love is precious in its own way. But when you handle the right way and a big love grows and stays, you have a strong base to rely on for the rest of your life!

Hi! My boyfriend lives in Izmir, he told me the city shakes as a bellydancer.. well i can tell ye somethin, i dont like bellydancers anywhere near my man!!
It really freaks me out. I live in Holland , so I'm used to a calm environment, boring actually.. but the images of Pakistani earthquake are burnt in my mind.. I'm glad Kadir told me he will leave the city and go to the summerhouse in Didim or to his parents in Ankara.

Has anyone got an idea when the earthquakes might stop? Or is that smt unpredictable?!