Generally I would enter such a discussion by stating that slavery, human trafficking and prostitution are not the same, but we would start the same discussions about this topic we had over and over again so I decided not to enter this discussion

Worried. My sister is flying to TR tomorrow but many flights from the Netherlands have been cancelled due to weather today...

I like ´gidek´, it is used in Ankara often I noticed.

 Çalışırsan da bazan zor

 My kamil, you weren´t even able to drink beer when I was ´captain´, don´t forget the days that you called me your older brother and poured whisky into my glass.

Sometimes it is an advantage to be the ´foreign bride´. We have been dating for 5 years now, and I frequently stay over at his parents´. Actually, they just dropped me off home The fact that I am foreign and don´t have ´anyone´ here (in parental way), has made them take me into their family very quickly.

When I was introduced to his family, we were serious yes, but it was at such an early stage that nobody could know if we would be able to make it. We were 17 and 18 at the time. His brother, who is 18 now and has a Turkish girlfriend, hasn´t brought her home yet and is not planning to do so either.

The first time we met, they also met my parents, but the second time we met, they came as guests to visit me and Kadir when we were practically living together.

It has both to do with the way our relationship developed (we lived together after I was introduced to his parents only once, didn´t speak a word of Turkish), the fact thathis family is very modern, but also the fact that I am foreign and ´alone´ here. His parents take care of me as if I was their own child, and, with my bofyriend being in İzmir but me in Ankara (where his parents live), I frequently stay over there without my bf being there at all.

It really depends on family, but I have never heard that girlfriends are introduced quickly. The fact that someone is dating is generally known, but introduction comes later when the couple gets more serious. This is from personal experience from among friends, who are all from urban and modern environments, but I am sure there are different situations as well. As far as I know, foreign girlfriends aren´t introduced quickly.

Another example of how families may look upon relationships: when we both stay over at his parents, we sleep seperatly, eventhough the sofas we sleep on are both 2 person sofas. However, when they come over to stay with us, they don´t mind we sleep together. I think it may have to do with my status as ´guest´ (even after all these years I am still a guest, eventhough we all act as if Im part of the family, with the same rights and duties), or maybe it is something like ´not under my roof´

Anyway, don´t feel bad about not being introduced yet. Most of the time girlfriends aren´t introduced quickly, and the fact that you´re foreign doesn´t make it any faster However if he insists on not introducing you even after you have been dating several years, I´d start worry about how serious he is.

Regarding "nörüyon" people sometimes swallow the last "n" i think, its also popular in Kastamonu region . But i havent realised any different pronounciation of "ben(me) & ben(mole)" so far. Maybe one shouldnt be a native to realise this ... 

Not really. It´s not a difference that is spoken these days anymore. The only way one would realize it, is with knowledge of the Arabic spelling of Ottoman times. Then you´d see why officially they are different. However, nowadays pronounciation is the same, unless you put suffixes. ´benim´ (my mole) and ´benim´ (mine), are pronounced differently, not the N this time, but there´s a slight differnce between the e´s. Ofcourse that also depends on who speaks

Anyway as I said, the point was not the pronounciation of ben, more an illustration of the difficulty of loanwords

Quoting ..Laulau..

Ahh thankyou so much! i dont know what i was thinking for ´this is easy´ and ´this is difficult´, i should have known those two lol!

 İşte kolay değil bu, zor

 Well, I would like to have my blood tested before getting pregnant. I just don´t see what the state has got to do with it and rather unlogical as well: you can´t get married without being tested, but it isn´t that hard to procreate without getting married, ey?