And so what if an older 30, 40 or 50 year old woman is taken by a young Turkish resort worker? I would think that at that age, she is self sufficient financially, able to earn her own money and decide if she should spend it on a man that flattered her for a short time? Is it not as much as she is using him then like he uses her?

Food for thought...

I believe it is wrong to generalise about anybody - on the grounds of anything.
Whether it be age, sex, colour, race, status etc..
My point is that we are all individuals and should be judged on our own merits.
Experience hopefully comes with age and we all learn eventually not to trust everybody - but in order to gain experience we have to make our own mistakes. You can guide but you cannot live someones life for them.

In my opinion - the initial question was very general and deserved the generalised answer that it was given. And however awful or judgemental it may sound to say that if your a waiter in a resort your probably uneducated etc, the fact is that, the majority of men who work in resorts do it because theres nothing else for them to do - although, there are some who are students, or those working in tourism as a second job to earn extra money, otherwise I cant see any reason why anyone would wish to endure 18 hour shifts, slapping a fake smile on their face as they watch tourists waste money, all for a pitance of a wage - nobody in their right mind would do such a job enless there was no other option. I thought what Erdinç wrote was reasonably accurate, and iam sure when asking 'what its like working as a waiter in tourism', she wasnt expecting anyone to say that it was all fun and games etc. I think the bottom line is - not everyones the same, HOWEVER, the translation section of this website is living proof that there are men out there working in tourism who use tourists to their own advantage,(and you should see the other sites! i.e the english girlfriends of turkish men group!) and if your boyfriend starts asking you for money, a new mobile phone, trainers or whatever, then be careful. Whats the deal with mobile phones anyway? I find it really pathetic and to some extend greedy, although its completely wrong, atleast theres some logic in asking for money if the person is in a bad situation - but when the person has a perfectly good phone in working order, why ask for a new one? - its really beyond logic.

Thank you for your support... I initiated the question/thread in an attempt to understand the socio/economics of Turkish people...just as I would about a teachers life...although I have already been told about that...I also have seen much dialogue about the salary a teacher makes, spends, the cost of electricity, internet and telephone, but was curios about the resort wages, distance from home, relationships (in general) with other family members and where they live etc etc etc. Anyone know anything else to answer these questions? Your input is interesting...if it is supported with first hand knowledge

in response to the previous post, i would just like to say, that yes of course there are exceptions
to this sterotype. I met my now husband in a tourist resort, he was working for his uncle for the summer and was still at school.
we have now been together for 5 years, married for nearly two, and in that time he has proved to be resonsible, genuine and respectful.
he is a good husband to me and a great dad to our daughter.
Yes the sterotype certainly does exist but there also certainly are exceptions, if if they are rare!