Well, if I have to make a choice, I will be home at 5.  But it makes absolutely no difference what so ever.  We have a 13 year old and a 14 month old.  We both work until 10pm every night anyway! My guess is we will both be in bed by 11pm as usual!

The key word here is sex!

Your keyword is always sex, not only here.

Nope! My keyword is sorrow!

well, I´d want to come home early! whatever my partner chooses for himself is his decision.. hopefully we could work out a happy relationship despite the time restriction.

DD - I wish that it was so easy as to decide that you want to be home and raise your children by yourself.. some people cannot afford that, but they still want to have kids.

I know, Kitty. A lot of people have to make tough choices. I just think people who choose career over children miss a lot. But then, choosing children over career makes you miss a lot as well. I suppose there´s no universal way that works for everybody in the end.

You are right of course. And of course I see your point about parents needing to be ready to put some time and effort into raising their children when they decide to have them. One can see the consequences of irresponsible parenting... However, in the US 50% of pregnancies are unplanned..

Wow...shocking that 50% are unplanned especially since birth control is so readily available.  My pregnancies were like finely tuned instruments right down to the scheduled inductions!  Maybe this is a funny point, but if both parents are working, there must be some commitment to scheduling and making "plans" for family time, alone time and so forth.  This is the only way it works for my family. 

what was said...."the best laid plans of mice and men"........one still needs luck....some try and try and nothing...others bingo! ready or not

Lucky you, Lis, that your biology listened to you Schedued inductions? Wow. Here they don´t induce you unless there´s a threat to the baby´s or mother´s health, or you´re 2 weeks overdue. I was induced as well due to severe pre-eclampsia but the induction failed and it ended up with a section.

It´s great to be able to plan everything, and it´s not so bad if you can make the best of the situation you get yourself in. The 50% of unplanned pregnancies Kitty talked about are shocking, especialy in 21st century with all the knowledge and access to contraception. I wonder how many of these unplanned pregnancies have a happy ending...

Whether your pregnancies are planned or a surprise (although, if you are having sex, I don´t see how it can be a "total´ shock), I think that setting time aside for your partner is vital to having a harmonious relationship.  I don´t know how many people I know who put all thier energy and time into the kids and let their relationship fall apart.  It is so easy to loose site of the relationship that created the kids in the first place.