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Army service in Turkey
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25 Feb 2007 Sun 09:57 pm |
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Always keep a positive spirit and remember what situation your loved ones are in. I'm sure it's very hard for them not being allowed to call you as well. They wouldn't refer from calling you if they had a choice.
I have spoken to my husband a few times now but it's certaintly not easy. We were supposed to attend his niece's marriage in June or July but he's been told that he can't have a holiday for the next nine months, their excuse being that it's too hard to travel to and from Tunceli. He won't even be haing any afternoons off because he's staying in a small town. Everything is just so hard right now and I'm trying my best to keep a positive spirit for him, because when it all comes down to it's him who's in the army, not me. At least I have the freedom to go outside and take a walk when I want. He's trying to be strong as well but I can hear in his voice that it's really hard for him. He's very close to his niece and was looking forward to attending her marriage party (she's going to live in another city as well) and apparently we won't be seeing eachother for nine months. I cannot even begin to imagine what it will be like. We have basically been inseparable for three years.
We have been joking about running off to Somalia and I'm starting to think it isn't a bad idea.
Sorry if I'm rambling too much. It's just that there's not really anyone around here who understands our situation.
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25 Feb 2007 Sun 10:41 pm |
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Merhaba 
I am wondering a few things about the Turkish military. My fiance just proposed to me and then said he must go into the Turkish Army. We decided that i will get pregnant now and stay in the U.S. until he gets home. How long does it usually take for men to complete their service? He says 1-5 years. And also, is there any kind of warfare or potentially dangerous situations that are happening within the turkish army right now? Any info would be great!!! Thanks.
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 01:58 am |
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Quoting azade: I cannot even begin to imagine what it will be like. We have basically been inseparable for three years.
We have been joking about running off to Somalia and I'm starting to think it isn't a bad idea.
Sorry if I'm rambling too much. It's just that there's not really anyone around here who understands our situation. |
oh! Azade..I can imagine exactly how you feel I know it is hard,X has to complete 5 months and he has served almost 3 now. lets not forget that what they need is our encouragement; there is nothing we can do to change the situation but to support them and make sure that they know we are and will be here for them, and that they are not alone..
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 02:17 am |
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Quoting yavrummx3: Merhaba
I am wondering a few things about the Turkish military. My fiance just proposed to me and then said he must go into the Turkish Army. We decided that i will get pregnant now and stay in the U.S. until he gets home. How long does it usually take for men to complete their service? He says 1-5 years. And also, is there any kind of warfare or potentially dangerous situations that are happening within the turkish army right now? Any info would be great!!! Thanks.
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Sorry if this sounds harsh (I am in no mood to mince my words tonight!!) but why on earth would you plan to get pregnant with such an uncertain few years ahead of you? Do you not want your baby to have a father around him/her in the first year or so of its life? I can understand your worry, but surely this will increase tenfold if you are also pregnant? 
It seems to me that relationships used to be sealed with a ring. These days babies seem to be used as a "seal" to a relationship. Does your fiance think this will be a good way to keep you from "straying" while he is away? This is a human life you are talking about!
It seems a strange way to start a marriage - but all too common 
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 02:27 am |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting yavrummx3: Merhaba
I am wondering a few things about the Turkish military. My fiance just proposed to me and then said he must go into the Turkish Army. We decided that i will get pregnant now and stay in the U.S. until he gets home. How long does it usually take for men to complete their service? He says 1-5 years. And also, is there any kind of warfare or potentially dangerous situations that are happening within the turkish army right now? Any info would be great!!! Thanks.
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Sorry if this sounds harsh (I am in no mood to mince my words tonight!!) but why on earth would you plan to get pregnant with such an uncertain few years ahead of you? Do you not want your baby to have a father around him/her in the first year or so of its life? I can understand your worry, but surely this will increase tenfold if you are also pregnant?
It seems to me that relationships used to be sealed with a ring. These days babies seem to be used as a "seal" to a relationship. Does your fiance think this will be a good way to keep you from "straying" while he is away? This is a human life you are talking about!
It seems a strange way to start a marriage - but all too common |
+10000000000 Tell it like it is girl!
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 02:34 am |
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Quoting Capoeira: Quoting aenigma x: Quoting yavrummx3: Merhaba
I am wondering a few things about the Turkish military. My fiance just proposed to me and then said he must go into the Turkish Army. We decided that i will get pregnant now and stay in the U.S. until he gets home. How long does it usually take for men to complete their service? He says 1-5 years. And also, is there any kind of warfare or potentially dangerous situations that are happening within the turkish army right now? Any info would be great!!! Thanks.
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Sorry if this sounds harsh (I am in no mood to mince my words tonight!!) but why on earth would you plan to get pregnant with such an uncertain few years ahead of you? Do you not want your baby to have a father around him/her in the first year or so of its life? I can understand your worry, but surely this will increase tenfold if you are also pregnant?
It seems to me that relationships used to be sealed with a ring. These days babies seem to be used as a "seal" to a relationship. Does your fiance think this will be a good way to keep you from "straying" while he is away? This is a human life you are talking about!
It seems a strange way to start a marriage - but all too common |
+10000000000 Tell it like it is girl! |
+1 also.....1-5 years 
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 05:06 am |
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Quoting Trudy: Quoting nastica: A nation that continues year after year to spend more money on military defence than on programs of social uplift is approaching spiritual death.
~Martin Luther King ~
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But I bet he wasn't talking about the Turkish army... |
You are correct!
I was alive when Martin Luther wrote and he was NOT talking about Turkey. He was talking about the "Cold War" which ended in the best way for all humanity.
Secondly, I don't think Turkey Defense budget fits the criteria posed by the MLK quote. Turkeys defense posture is not agressive.
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 06:32 am |
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Well, haha heres another thing that might strike your fancy. I'm 15 and he's 27... yeah. Please don't tell me I'm stupid, I don't need that. I was simply wondering how bad things are around there. We might decide not to have a baby right now but thats not what I'm asking about, I'm asking about the consitions of the Turkish Army at this time. Thank you.
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 06:42 am |
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Quoting yavrummx3: How long does it usually take for men to complete their service? He says 1-5 years. |
you might like to check these posts as someone posted earlier:
http://www.turkishclass.com/forumTitle_11_417
http://www.turkishclass.com/forumTitle_11_998
http://www.turkishclass.com/forumTitle_11_1170
it depends one whether he has been to university or not, etc, etc...
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 08:01 am |
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Quoting yavrummx3: Well, haha heres another thing that might strike your fancy. I'm 15 and he's 27... yeah. Please don't tell me I'm stupid, I don't need that. I was simply wondering how bad things are around there. We might decide not to have a baby right now but thats not what I'm asking about, I'm asking about the consitions of the Turkish Army at this time. Thank you.
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I don't say you are stupid but wondering very very much is allowed I hope? And 'we MIGHT decide not to have a baby?' Dear girl, you are a kid yourself, I think you should have other things on your mind. About the army: do you think it is a lunapark?
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. This cheered me up and I was so happy to see his beautiful smile again, this was like fuel for my soul 