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Army service in Turkey
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 08:01 am |
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Quoting yavrummx3: Well, haha heres another thing that might strike your fancy. I'm 15 and he's 27... yeah. Please don't tell me I'm stupid, I don't need that. I was simply wondering how bad things are around there. We might decide not to have a baby right now but thats not what I'm asking about, I'm asking about the consitions of the Turkish Army at this time. Thank you.
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I don't say you are stupid but wondering very very much is allowed I hope? And 'we MIGHT decide not to have a baby?' Dear girl, you are a kid yourself, I think you should have other things on your mind. About the army: do you think it is a lunapark?
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 08:09 am |
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Quoting yavrummx3: Well, haha heres another thing that might strike your fancy. I'm 15 and he's 27... yeah. Please don't tell me I'm stupid, I don't need that. I was simply wondering how bad things are around there. We might decide not to have a baby right now but thats not what I'm asking about, I'm asking about the consitions of the Turkish Army at this time. Thank you.
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i am not judging you. i believe love has no age boundaries.
but i hope you and your fiance know about the legal age of consent and the consequences if your fiance is caught.
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 08:18 am |
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Yes, you are right but I also believe love does not have age boundaries. That is why he is my fiance because i have about two more years (I'm almost 16) until I can get married without parental consent. Until then, he is going off to the army and I am not sure if he its a lunapark or not. Don't worry we are both aware of the consequences. Any more information would be great! Thanks
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 09:31 am |
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Quoting yavrummx3: Yes, you are right but I also believe love does not have age boundaries. That is why he is my fiance because i have about two more years (I'm almost 16) until I can get married without parental consent. Until then, he is going off to the army and I am not sure if he its a lunapark or not. Don't worry we are both aware of the consequences. Any more information would be great! Thanks |
I agree love has no boundaries (within the age of consent!). I also know that if I had married the boyfriend I had aged 15 I would have been VERY unhappy now. How about your boyfriend gives you a nice engagement ring instead of a baby before he goes - much less trouble. I would guess my first assumption was DEFINITELY right - he wants to ensure your loyalty before going away. A baby is the wrong way to do this.
I dont think you understood Gezbelle's comment either. She was not talking about the legal age for marriage! The legal age for sex here is 16 (I am not sure about SOME parts of the US, but I presume its the same!).
WIth regards your question, as someone has already said here it depends on your boyfriend's circumstances.
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 10:32 am |
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Quoting geniuda: Quoting ambertje: We are here for each other. Take care! Let us know when you have some news! |
Good news!! for the first time after almost 3 months my bf had a day off! we had the opportunity to chat, talk and see each other thanks to the webcam . This cheered me up and I was so happy to see his beautiful smile again, this was like fuel for my soul  . I had missed this so much. Hopefully, if he and his crew do things right they will have next Sunday off and we will be able to do this again. I will my cross my fingers
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Wow, Geniuda!!!! I am so happy for you!!! It is great news! first time in 3 months!! Really, I'm so happy for you!!I even can't find the words. I can imagine how you feel when you wait for something so important for so long time, think about it permanently and finally it happens. I'm sure you will succeed to talk this Sunday again. Good luck!
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26 Feb 2007 Mon 04:46 pm |
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Quoting azade: Always keep a positive spirit and remember what situation your loved ones are in. I'm sure it's very hard for them not being allowed to call you as well. They wouldn't refer from calling you if they had a choice.
I have spoken to my husband a few times now but it's certaintly not easy. We were supposed to attend his niece's marriage in June or July but he's been told that he can't have a holiday for the next nine months, their excuse being that it's too hard to travel to and from Tunceli. He won't even be haing any afternoons off because he's staying in a small town. Everything is just so hard right now and I'm trying my best to keep a positive spirit for him, because when it all comes down to it's him who's in the army, not me. At least I have the freedom to go outside and take a walk when I want. He's trying to be strong as well but I can hear in his voice that it's really hard for him. He's very close to his niece and was looking forward to attending her marriage party (she's going to live in another city as well) and apparently we won't be seeing eachother for nine months. I cannot even begin to imagine what it will be like. We have basically been inseparable for three years.
We have been joking about running off to Somalia and I'm starting to think it isn't a bad idea.
Sorry if I'm rambling too much. It's just that there's not really anyone around here who understands our situation. |
Azade, to be honest.. your story impressed me very much..
All you said is..I can feel it. And I understand you so much. How hard it is for you and for your husband. And, yes, you feel in his voice that is not easy for him. So, you need to be strong for him..and for yourself..
And this wish to be at his niece marrige party.. I still hope that circumstances can be changed. Really, I think they can be change and you will go there. And please don't go to Somalia))))
We are with you! HOLD ON!
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28 Feb 2007 Wed 10:50 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting yavrummx3: Yes, you are right but I also believe love does not have age boundaries. That is why he is my fiance because i have about two more years (I'm almost 16) until I can get married without parental consent. Until then, he is going off to the army and I am not sure if he its a lunapark or not. Don't worry we are both aware of the consequences. Any more information would be great! Thanks |
I agree love has no boundaries (within the age of consent!). I also know that if I had married the boyfriend I had aged 15 I would have been VERY unhappy now. How about your boyfriend gives you a nice engagement ring instead of a baby before he goes - much less trouble. I would guess my first assumption was DEFINITELY right - he wants to ensure your loyalty before going away. A baby is the wrong way to do this.
I dont think you understood Gezbelle's comment either. She was not talking about the legal age for marriage! The legal age for sex here is 16 (I am not sure about SOME parts of the US, but I presume its the same!).
WIth regards your question, as someone has already said here it depends on your boyfriend's circumstances. |
After a long discussion, we have reconsidered the baby but yes you are correct 16 is the legal age for sex, but I'm still a minor so either way its illegal.
I am still not sure about the details of his army service, all I know is that he is doing the required service for a Turkish male citizen. All I'm really wondering now is how dangerous the conditions the army (overall) are faced with, and if there is any chance whatsoever that he could be used for combat. Thanks
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28 Feb 2007 Wed 10:56 pm |
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Quoting yavrummx3:
I am still not sure about the details of his army service, all I know is that he is doing the required service for a Turkish male citizen. All I'm really wondering now is how dangerous the conditions the army (overall) are faced with, and if there is any chance whatsoever that he could be used for combat. Thanks |
It depends on many things:
Where he's going
What he's been assigned to (actual army, gendarme, navy, air force)
What kind of job he's been assigned to
How many months he's staying there (5 or 15 - it depends on his education)
It's really hard to tell without this information - some places it's like a holiday, other places it's like going to hell. If you have any information about it, there's probably someone who has experiences to share
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04 Mar 2007 Sun 10:38 pm |
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Hi Just looking to find a little bit about the army and i was wondering could anybody tell me what way it works ,,and do turkish men get much notice to them letting them no when they will do ..could you give me some information thanks..
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11 Apr 2007 Wed 02:19 pm |
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To Azade: it is interesting but I faced to the same situation as you discribed here - he can call me but when I try to call him on the same number I just don't get any connection. The number is really strange. And I understand that it's a tel. only be called from. Thanks that you said about it before. At least I'm not so amazed and confused about it
By the way, maybe you know what is the schedule during day they have? (I mean regulations - time of waking up, going to bad etc.)Or it can be various? I think in army it is some certain time when day is started and finished..
do you know something about it?
[/QUOTE Azade]
Use of telephones vary from place to place. In my case we were able to call eachother via a phone that everyone shared, which means that it was really hard to get through sometimes but I'm starting to think that we were lucky. He's only stayed in Tunceli for a few days now but he's called from a phone with a really strange number (+1 followed by the number) which I can't call. Hopefully they have a normal phone there but sometimes the phones can only be called from, not to."
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