Welcome, I corrected some grammar errors now...

First in your first letter you said do not tell anyone I wrote they will think it is shameful ...  I only reiterated this to you

Second he is a rat, to take the vows of marriage for a visa is in itself a scam I pity this poor woman/girl whom he married. She will be hurt and you are not concerned with this either. You do not seem to think this is a problem that maybe he is not getting what he wanted from her, and you are second choice. Why would a good person marry a woman to get a visa to see another woman? He is a rat and you are a rat chaser. Clearly you expressed your current boyfriend is also cheater hence a rat, but you still date him because he might tell daddy about your mom being depressed. That is as good as the dog ate my homework. Go to the police if he is violent and dump him. Now either your self-esteem is extremely low or you are just repeating history as you say your parents are not happy either. You say you are sick all the time and stressed. I think maybe your choices are causing this. You seem to be proactive with your mothers depression instead of helping her find suitable counsel to alleviate her problem. She is an adult introduce her to a therapist and let them help her so that you can help yourself make better choices. And yes I don´t know you but I know your type.

Last you say you are in contact with this guy’s family and he doesn´t love her. I thought you just said he contacted you? How can his family communicate with you if you have to have this letter written in Turkish for this guy to understand your plea for him to leave his wife for you.  Very weird indeed.

Have a good day.

How dare you say you know my type! You are a very ignorant person, it´s fine for you to sit there and judge. My mother´s depression is none of your business and she has tried counselling so don´t sit there telling me all about my life.

Nobody can ever understand anyone elses situation no matter how they listen. And yes his family contacted me, he asked them to, then he spoke. I may well be stupid, shameful, or whatever you want to call me, but you are indeed a very nasty person to say such things about my situation which you don´t even know.

I asked for a translation, not criticism of who I am, or at least who you think I am.

 I have sent you a PM with regard to some of the above comments.

People on thsi website have heard these kind of stories a million times before. I myself have lived and worked in a tourist resort and Turkey, and have seen married men juggle many women. They all say they are unhappily married, and they all never say that to their own wives ofcourse. They are not unhappily married, because they don´t take their vows very serious in general. If somebody on this website points this out to you, it doesn´t make that person ignorant. It´s not ignorant to find it weird for a person who is not single to try and find contact with somebody who is married. If you don´t want people to judge you, don´t air your dirty laundry on the internet. And if you are smart, dump your boyfriend if you are not happy with him, and find contact with your ex if he is single too. Don´t make dating you and being with his wife at the same time a good option for him. It is unfair to his wife, especially since he already says he married her for the wrong reasons. You think the wife knows he married her for a greencard? It means he´s already lying to her (or you). In general, if he is willing to cheat on one wife he is willing to cheat on the next as well.

Somebody just tried to look out for you because it is clear that you are getting yourself into a giant mess. If you don´t want that kind of advise, don´t tell about your problems in the first place.

You don´t personally know me or my life, I´m sure all of you who criticise have your own ´dirty laundry´, if I wanted advice I would write to an agony aunt website. This is ridiculous how I´m being made to feel by people who know nothing about my situation. Think what you want from the outside, I have known this person for 8 years and yes I know a lot about their tricks but not everyone is the same. You defend the comments made to me but comments about my mother etc were completely out of order and if you want to defend it, that´s shame on you.

I can´t be bothered with this anymore, think what you want. It took me strength to leave my relationship, I now have, but what do you know? Do you know who I am, my past, my life? No, as I don´t know you and I wouldn´t have the audacity to even comment on someone´s issues the way you both have. 

I am always inclined to wonder about individuals who post things on a public website and then act shocked when they get feedback.  However, while I am also inclined to agree with acute and barba´s assessment, perhaps we should leave well enough alone and not let this thread escalate out of control.

Adventure!

I don´t care much about what translation requester does or not, I was just sticking up for Acute. To call somebody ignorant, while that person seems to have a clearer view of what actually is going on is just silly. How many times have we "regulars" on this website seen very similar translation request? They always end up in about 10 further translation requests that depict a further relationship that never ends well. Usually the request stop after these 10, without the person in question ever making a real contribution to this website. If Acute wants to respond to an open message like this, he (or is it she) has every right to.

We all should stop discussing this issue. otherwise we will get nowhere. All I can say is that People has every right to ask any translation request whether you like it or not.

No one is perfect. I am not perfect ..We all make mistakes. Saying opinions are all right but not judgement for other´s lives . If you judge then you will be judged likewise.

This is the final dot of this silly discussion [ . ]

But I´ve  had things to say