Oh and CANLI, Im not debating whether you should or should not put your scarf while praying and stand behind a man. Because it is not your choice. It is something you believe and simply have to follow. So it is not discussing about how it should or should not be done, it is about how correct the way it was described is. You are not to question Allah's rules, you are to follow them. And I understand how you want to defend what we say, because your faith is the core of your being. But as an outsider, I can question them and say why I think they are wrong. And I believe that actually every muslim or christian or whatever should think about the set of rules and beliefs they are given, to choose whether it is something you really believe in and therefore are willing to follow, or if it is something you feel is unacceptable and therefore decide that what you always believed in, is not good, and stop being a believer or believe in something else.

This also reminds me when I spent the night at a Turkish male friend of mine in Amsterdam. We went out for a drink and there was no train back to my city so I stayed over for the night. When I later told this to a Turkish female friend, she was highly in shock that I had the guts to spend the night with another male. I hadn't even for one single second thought about the fact that he was a male, because I see him as a close friend in the first p lace, and not someone of the opposite sex. There had never been any undecent thought in my head nor in his, we actually sat up for a tea till wee hours, and the next morning he kept knocking the door before entering the room where I slept. But the undecent thoughts are in the heads of the people who think such a thing is impossible.

I wouldn't midn to change my clothes or sleep in the same bed with a male friend that Im closely friends with. Because you both are aware of the fact that you don't see each other that way. This might be another extreme and I dont expect everyone to think by such standards, but in this thread whole other extremes are being told, which I find to be more extreme: they are out of a point of view that opposite sex can only have physical contact if it is in a sexual case or with bad intention. And then considering you are fully dressed in a mosque!