I agree with Meltem and Libralady here. That he was watching porn doesn´t mean he´s a pervert, just like having a beer every now and then doesn´t make you an alcoholic.

As for sperm banks, I do appreciate their role as institutions helping people with fertility problems, yet, I´d never rate them higher than reproducing with a partner the traditional way.

I´ve just thought of something - do you need to meet special criteria if you want to use a sperm bank or can anybody do it if they want to? I´ve heard that adoption process is quite long and the parents-to-be environment is carefully scrutinised before they´re granted the right to adopt a child. Is it the same with sperm banks? If not then it´s a pretty dangerous thing as you never know who will get the sperm or what will happen to life thus started. Also, it´s petty discriminatory for guys as although women can have a child on their own, they cannot.

sure to be mother a big dream and desire for most of woman,but if thats impossible i think parentless babies or kids better adress then spermbanks,And yes whats harm to look without touch?

Well, I personally don´t like porn, but some seem to really get addicted to it. For some the line between porn and erotic art is thin, for others it´s none existant. Just exactly what it is has for many years been a matter of controversy.

From what I´ve learned on the matter, erotic art has culturaly redemptive qualities, porn does not. It´s whole reason for being is for simple animalistic (read reptile brain) arousal. It dehumanizes and objectifies sexuality and those involved in it.

He doesn´t sound like a very highly evolved person.

People don´t watch porn because they are not satisfied in their relationships. Porn is a completely different thing that has nothing to do with real life. It is more like a male fantasy world that a man quickly learns to get aroused by and get pleasure from. It is very addictive because the power of arousal is strong and it´s an activity where nothing is asked of the man, instead, he is in a world where he gets messages that women are reduced to his sex objects that he can use for his pleasure in any way he likes. Alameda is completely right here, it is very animalistic and operates on simple learning to associate some dehumanized, degraded images with sexual arousal. The man doesn´t have to be a pervert to learn to enjoy this kind of material, but it´s naive to believe that if he watches enough of this, he will not treat women in real life by pornographic standards (he will have little respect for women and will retain the belief that they are sex objects that he can disrespect and control). In fact, research shows that men who have watched mainstream porn for only a couple weeks, they report that monogamous relationships are not normal and that there is nothing wrong with rape.

Porn does not help a man with anything, it only damages real life relationships, which cannot give him the same high intensity experiences as porn provides. In real relationships the man is expected to give, not just take, to be attentive to the woman as a person, to her feelings... in porn, he can be as animalistic, egoistic, self-centered and sadistic as he wants - the woman is often degraded in number of different ways (depending on what he´s watching), that domination over the woman and the animal hatred that it brings out in a man, combined with sexual arousal is what the man gets out of it. It has nothing to do with real world, it´s more like a sick fantasy.