I like that....

Ha! I would only share all of my stories for money Perhaps get some cash out of my Turkish disasters I´m such an angel (no really) but the times that I have been into contact with the Turkish police is just crazy...and does this column lady have any columns about how she ended up in a Turkish police-cell? NO... I do, I´m so cool Does she have any columns about how she ended up in a sort of prostitute hotel? No... I do.. not too proud of that one though  I blame the taxi-driver for taking us there... And yes I also have stories about my in-laws, but they are not that negative...although I did get food poisining from my aunt-in-laws chicken... wonder if that was on purpose... Nobody else had the chicken except for me... Mmmm... now I´m starting to wonder if she DID try to kill me

DANG!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry to hear..Hope it all turned out ok. undercooked chicken maybe?

If my experiences can show you anything, is that you REALLY have to see somebody in real life before you decide anything. And even then, you have to take it easy. People cannot show their full personality through internet. For example, how does he react in a crisis?

My partner asked me to marry him pretty darn fast (as you do in Turkey), and although my heart screamed yes at that time, my head said no no no, take it easy, there´s not rush. So I had a long talk and declined the first time. Simply because marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment, and when you say yes, you are not saying "yes, I´ll try it out for a bit". When you say yes you have to feel that you want to be with that person the rest of your life, but also logically in your head this should all match up. At the time of my first proposal I hadn´t lived with my partner for a long time yet, he didn´t meet my family yet (except for my mum) and I didn´t see him sick yet. This might sound strange But I think you can only get married after you have seen eachother really sick....mmm...perhaps he told his aunt about this and this is why she made me sick with her evil chicken...it was about 3 months after the proposal...

Barba_mama, how long were you with your guy when he propsed to you? And how did he do it, do Turkish men traditionaly get down on one knee? I am clueless

Oh my....do tell! You seem to have had some really "interesting adventures".  If you hope to get money from here, think again, it´s volunteer work.  You should write some things up and submit them someplace....(?)...where I don´t know.  Getting money for writing is NOT easy. If you are famous, people give big money and you get help with a ghost writer.

Maybe if you tell your stories you will get famous and people will ask for more and pay you?

As for the chicken, that is one of the more dangerous things to eat, it spoils very fast if not stored properly.  I always treat chicken like a deadly poison.....only one board to cut it on, sterlize everything that came in contact with it.  It doesn´t take long or much bad chicken to really make you ill.  Even then if some of the raw chicken juice comes in contact with something else that contaminates something else, like salad....you can get very sick.

 Well, he proposed to me kind of fast, after 5 months (exactly five months). He got on his knees, in a busy place... I hate proposing in busy places... Anyway, I kind of declined then, since I thought it was way too fast, and didn´t know about the Turkish "tradition" of proposing so fast But other proposals followed

Hahah, so what is your favorite way to propose/be proposed to, eh?

Uhm, in a place where I am not FORCED to say yes, when I´m not feeling ready for it at all And in a busy place everybody is looking at you, so you can´t say no The best place to be proposed for me is a place that means something special for me and the love in my life alone...so not a typical romantic place that everybody would like.

Barba_mama I suppose your right in alot of what you say and right now my heart screams out YES!!!! But something inside me kind of pauses at the situation.I been thinking alot since people gave good advise and am kind of scared. I am planning a trip to Turkey for June and I really really hope ti will all go smoothly. I just hate that I know no one else just him. I think what if we argue what do I do? how would he react. When we argue now it´s all calm and everything is understood quickly but I´m afraid. Like you said it is all different in person. I´m just excited in getting there. Another thing thats keeps my motor running  is to think of our first time....Wooohooooooo....I hope all goes well...I guess a good thing is if we do argue or something goes wrong I can always send him home to his mom lol....Thank you for your story....I´ll remember not to eat chicken while thereHave a great evening....

You ladies sound fantastic!  I can´t wait to learn more from you all in these forums!!!  Some things I wonder about in addition to marrying a Turkish man are making friends with Turkish women and hearing more about traditions that still widely exist in Modern Turkey.  İyi geceler!