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"being presented to the family"
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:00 pm |
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Quoting CANLI: İ see it as a sign of respect too,i don't think it is a rule applying to every family,each family is different with its own believes,and there are some educated turkish people,who live in a modern and educated turkish families,and has a very open prospect to the western life style,they already lived there,and they STİLL kissing the parents hands,it shows respect,although i never done such a thing before,it is not easy,but,i appreciate it,even they are from the high member of the society,but they don't see no harm in kissing parents hands,out of respect,they have done the hard thing  and thats lovely |
VERY TRUE! Families are all different ... I really do like to see it. Put it this way... younger generation in the UK do not have much respect for their elders... so it is so refreshing to see younger people in Turkey show respect for the older generation ... I LOVE IT 
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:00 pm |
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Quoting robin01: probabluy because we arent so judgemental about people..but take them on the person that they are..rather than where they come from..or wot they do
and i AM FULLY ACCEPTED and active in life where i live..in the turkish community that we know just 2 put da record straight
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I am not judgemental, but there are traditions which can never change. Incidently, your profile says you are from Basildon - how can you be fully integrated into a traditional turkish community 
(PS are you Ali G - "in da house"?)
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:02 pm |
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If you marry a somebody you expect to share your life. You expect to make desicions together related to your marriage.
For instance you expect to decide together where you will live, buy a house, grow your children, where you invest your money etc. In a traditional family a man, instead talking to his wife will talk to other male members of his familiy and then will make desicions on these issues.
Of course it is possible that the male members might decide on directions where it is the most to benefit from. In all possible cases, in too tradition families the females have no say but the man and his family may pretend differently until a certain time.
If you think this is not a problem for you then good luck.
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:02 pm |
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Quoting IZMIR060406: Quoting CANLI: İ see it as a sign of respect too,i don't think it is a rule applying to every family,each family is different with its own believes,and there are some educated turkish people,who live in a modern and educated turkish families,and has a very open prospect to the western life style,they already lived there,and they STİLL kissing the parents hands,it shows respect,although i never done such a thing before,it is not easy,but,i appreciate it,even they are from the high member of the society,but they don't see no harm in kissing parents hands,out of respect,they have done the hard thing and thats lovely |
VERY TRUE! Families are all different ... I really do like to see it. Put it this way... younger generation in the UK do not have much respect for their elders... so it is so refreshing to see younger people in Turkey show respect for the older generation ... I LOVE IT |
 NO OFFENCE TO OUR UK YOUNGER GENERATION You are not all disrespectful xx
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:06 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: OK I stand corrected. Free drinks at the bar for Chantal and Cyrano! 
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Hey-what happened to the marriage?
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:07 pm |
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Quoting cyrano: Quoting aenigma x: OK I stand corrected. Free drinks at the bar for Chantal and Cyrano!
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Hey-what happened to the marriage? |
I was rather hoping that free drinks at the bar would make you forget !
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:08 pm |
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Quote:
(PS are you Ali G - "in da house"?) |
YES !!! I THINK ALI G IS IN DA HOUSE 
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:08 pm |
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i know because i am 21-and not disrespectful-firstly aenigma if u knew anything about basildon u would know that we have quite a lot of turkish people from a traditional kurdish village background living together in this area.
secondly he has lots of family in london..who we see frequently
SO NEXT TIME PLEASE CHECK UR FACTS BEFOR EMAKING ASSUMPTIONS YEH
Secondly, erdinc, i grew up in england..i may be muslim but im not a pushover..i dont take crap from him or his family...he already tries to tell ne what to do..and i tell him where 2 shove it
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:08 pm |
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Erdinc, i understand most of what u say.. but .. what does the silver ring symbolise? is it some kind of sign for power?
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:09 pm |
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i meant thirdly,erdinc
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28 Aug 2006 Mon 07:10 pm |
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oh yeah...and i have no money..so nothing to gain
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