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getting married in turkey
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:05 pm |
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Quoting CANLI: karekin04
Maybe is his fighting it there in his way,so he wont lose his parents too.
Turkish are patient people,and its just taking time maybe thats it ? |
I have been letting him do things his way since the first time they said break up 2 years ago, now i dont know wwhat to do.
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:09 pm |
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Quoting mltm: No woman want that their man cheat on them, they do not marry accepting this, they become very upset and sad if their man cheat on them, but if it ever happens, the woman get angry at him, her heart breaks so much but there's always a high percentage that they can settle things and save their marriage. If it happens more than once, if it becomes unbearable for them, if the woman divorces, but as I said you cannot ever compare it to the cheating of woman. |
Absolutely true. How horrible what women have to go through in their lifes.
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:11 pm |
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Be patient,i know its hard,but if he loves you enough he will sort things out and be with you.
İf not,then you are lucky you broke up now.
Only thing you can do for him is to be patient and support him,dont let him fight both sides.
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:13 pm |
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Quoting CANLI: Be patient,i know its hard,but if he loves you enough he will sort things out and be with you.
İf not,then you are lucky you broke up now.
Only thing you can do for him is to be patient and support him,dont let him fight both sides. |
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:15 pm |
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Quoting mltm:
No woman want that their man cheat on them, they do not marry accepting this, they become very upset and sad if their man cheat on them, but if it ever happens, the woman get angry at him, her heart breaks so much but there's always a high percentage that they can settle things and save their marriage. If it happens more than once, if it becomes unbearable for them, the woman divorces, but as I said you cannot ever compare it to the cheating of woman. |
That is what i call it SECURE !
But what you have said now mltm saying they actually marrying accepting this.
The whole socity is accepting this and they are marrying accourding to its rules!
Ohh God,if a man cheat on her then THAT İS İT.
They shouldnt wait for next time,because there will be next time.
Cheeting on her meaning he doesnt love her,then its not worth living together.
What for ?!
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:18 pm |
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Quoting catwoman:
How horrible what women have to go through in their lifes. |
+10000000000
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:23 pm |
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Quoting catwoman:
How horrible what women have to go through in their lifes. |
I think this is the biggest double standard that is applied to women in Turkey.
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:26 pm |
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Quoting CANLI:
Cheeting on her meaning he doesnt love her,then its not worth living together.
What for ?! |
Their biggest defence for it is that when a man cheats it's just because sex, but when a woman cheats it's about love.
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:28 pm |
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The amazing thing is its still ok for men too when they are getting older!
İ mean those rules are the same rules will apply on his daughter to be in the future,on his sister
He would still accept it too ?
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:29 pm |
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Quoting mltm: YES. A very big yes. Unlike many muslim societies in Turkey, a married man is forgiven very easily if he has sex outside marriage. There's even a disgusting famous idiom "çapkınlık erkeğin elinin kiridir, yıkar geçer" which means "adultery/cheating is the dirt of the man's hand, he washes his hands, and there it's gone". But for woman, it's a dirt that she can never wash off, it stays there all her life as a dishonor.
There're a lot of women who are ready to forgive their husband for cheating wheareas it's a very big shame for the wife to cheat. Men can even boast about it, no problem, his male friends will consider him such a great man, but if a woman does it ever, her female friends will call her a slut. The society reprooach the man a bit if his cheating is found out, but it's always ready to forgive him, and would say to the woman "come on, forgive him, he has amde a fault, all men cheat", but if it's the woman, she's done such an unforgivable thing.
So, it's nearly normal for men to cheat, but for women it's unimaginable.
Ohhh, how frustrated I am about this! |
Meltem, we disagree often on this forum, but I have to say I am grateful that there are Turkish girls on this forum who talk as honestly and openly as you. 
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 07:31 pm |
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when we accept to make love only a nice way to say i love you (body language of a real love ) then to cheeting impossible i think?
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