I have a problem understanding sumthings with the turkish culture.

I have been dating a guy for almost 2 years now. Everything was great, i just got told how much he loves me and he would die for me. I am still married but seperated and have a girl that is 2 yr old. He knows about that from the beginning. I fell pregnant when i was only seeing him for 6 months i had to get rid of the baby as he wanted me to do that, so i did. Then this year i fell pregnant again, i did not even know i was. I really wanted the baby even if i lost him. He did also not want me to have the baby and i had a abortion, which has left me broken for life. He went home in July i few days after i got rid of the baby. I called him so much i missed him so much, but some how he seemed different. He came back after a month, he was not even back in Austria for 24 hours and i was just discussing what i felt for him. When he just dropped the bom on me and told me that we do not fit and we are playing with fire. Then he said he wants to still be with me, but one day he has to take a turkish woman as his wife. For so many months before that he told me it does not matter and if things work out he wants to marry me. I even spoke to his mother and his mother told me she loves me and calles me cane. So i dont know where i went wrong??? Or is he playing me??? He is not muslim but alavetis. Please someone tell me. Honestly i need to know what is going on. I dont want to get hurt more.

Since you asked - Why would you allow someone to treat you that way? I would also like to suggest a more reliable form of birth control. You need to respect yourself and life a little more and forget about that man. He apparently likes to use you for sex and doesn't care about the consequences of his actions and you are perfectly willing to allow it to happen.

Thats just my opinion..since you asked. I wish you luck. Everyone deserves to be loved and respected but you have to feel that way for yourself first.

Wake up Bathory,wake up!!!!And start treating yourself with respect.Elizabeth is damn right in her comments about your situation.You are also responsible for what has happened.Will you carry on being a toy?Wake up!

im agree with them, and feel sorry for your life which you spend it with him,he doesn't deserve you, so forget him and go out him from your life to feel respect , if he love you will comeback for you

i agree with what everyone else has already said.

you definitely need to have more respect for yourself.

you said you are still married but separated, yet you have been dating a 2nd man for 2 years...??

maybe i am old-fashioned, but shouldn't you get a divorce from the 1st man before you even consider getting into a relationship with someone else?

walk away from this turkish man now. he doesn't seem to be respecting you at all. abortion is not a birth control.

Doesnt anyone else thing we are all being just a little judgemental and reactionary here.This is somebodies life we are talking about here and who are we to sit and point the finger about the story we know very little about. I agree this is not an ideal situation and i am so sorry for your loss of this child. I think however though that maybe you need to take a step back from this man and stop feeling like you need to run after him in order to get him back.

After all i am enclined to think that he may not be the best person for you from what i understand of your situation. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to somebody about this who understands more about the circumstances ,perhaps a friend or family member. I do think though that chasing after this man or trying to get him back will probably result in another negative situation arrising.