When you post a very personal experience on a website and ask peoples opinion...that is what you are going to get. I was not trying to impose my beliefs on anyone, but the fact that someone can have 2 abortions in one year, I find truely offensive. If you think that preserving the feelings of people who have left themselves open for critisizm is more important than expressing an opinion regarding the murder of unborn children then I have to say this truely is a sick and twisted world we live in...

Very harsh maybe but in my opinion abortion is not murder if the mother is in danger, deep trouble or when there is proof there will not be life of any quality for the unborn child (severe handicaps e.g.). But if you use abortion as just another way of birth control, well yes than it's murder for me too. A woman who does that is - again in my view! - very immature and irresponsible. I think Aenigma is right: such a woman should consider celebacy.

Abortion, is definately a sensitive subject among people. I guess I'm having a hard time with the initial post. My question would be "Why in the world would you ever let a man tell you whether or not you can have the baby?" No offense to the fathers out there, but it is the womans right to have a baby. You really have no say in the matter. And to say that your boyfriend "made you" is even worse. What does this say about you? Does your boyfriend have that much power over you?

Another point and I know I sound harsh, but you obvisouly don't care about aborting a child if you have the nerve to announce it in a public forum. I think you would be a little more descrete or even embarrased by the situation. Having an abortion is not something you would want to announce to the world or be proud of. I do believe woman have rights, but I also think having an abortion would be a little humilating or even sad for you.

“I have a problem understanding sumthings with the turkish culture. “

This has nothing to do with Turkish culture, but one man and one woman who are from different cultures. It would be similar if he were from from another place that is culturally different. Even when people from places like say, Germany and Spain get together, there can be problems.

“I have been dating a guy for almost 2 years now. Everything was great, i just got told how much he loves me and he would die for me. “

When he was in your environment, that was true. It's like when you are in water, you swim, but when he went home, he realized where he was from and where he was going. It's almost like he was drunk with you and got sober.

“Then this year i fell pregnant again, i did not even know i was. I really wanted the baby even if i lost him. He did also not want me to have the baby and i had a abortion, which has left me broken for life.....When he just dropped the bom on me and told me that we do not fit and we are playing with fire. Then he said he wants to still be with me, but one day he has to take a turkish woman as his wife. “

Now, as the reality of your and his basic fundamental values and goals, he realizes it won't work out. He obviously has great physical attraction and feelings for you, but he realizes you are not compatible. This type of love doesn't last the long run and can result in tragedy....as it has thus far. Having two abortions in such a short time does not bode well for the relationship. It is very hard on your body, and emotional well being. When you are pregnut, your hormones change, when you have an abortion, it disrupts the cycle, not to mention what it does to your body.

“Or is he playing me??? He is not muslim but alavetis. “

I don't think he is playing with you. He will probably does love you and will remember you all his life, but he realizes it won't work. If you try to stay together, it looks very bleak.

Alevi's are Muslim....

http://www.angelfire.com/az/rescon/ALEVI.html