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Traditions ...
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| 90. |
02 Oct 2008 Thu 12:28 pm |
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Because of all the prejudices that many Turkish men have against women  . While a man is fairly indepenent and can pretty much do the same as a European man, women (in rural areas) still live in very traditional roles, so therefore there are bigger differences between them and European women.
He will probably marry you for money (with maybe a bit of love!) but when the gloss rubs off would resent you if you were not a virgin when you married, would miss all the traditional things that other Turkish wives do for their husbands (cooking Turkish food, cleaning, childcare etc.), and sometimes merely for your lack of "Turkishness"! However, the biggest difficulty would probably be his jealousy.
I guess you stand a better chance of it working if he is from Istanbul or maybe Ankara and is has a good job and is financially secure.
Thank you for the answer! As you may understand I m not Turkish. though it would be the same in my country as well. I think rural areas are pretty much the same everywhere. Two different cultures - City and Village. Nothing offensive in my words, though. I spent almost all my childhood in rural area and know how it is there. Thus, i think it is not the case.
Is there anything else? I mean smth more specific, absolutely Turksh 
I´ve heard about Turkish Jealosy .... but maybe it inheres to all Southern people and nations somehow or other, doesn´t it?
You mentioned "Turkishness"... What is it like? I recognize foreighners in my country by clothes, type of faces (though, i came to conclusion that there identical types of faces in all nations, countries, continents, and possessors of the same type all over the world have analogous characters) and smiles. What do you put into definition?
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| 91. |
02 Oct 2008 Thu 12:31 pm |
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Speaking from my own personal experience, I absolutely agree with this statement.
Can be woman finacially secure in Turkey on her own?
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| 92. |
02 Oct 2008 Thu 12:58 pm |
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Can be woman finacially secure in Turkey on her own?
Of course!!!! Our comment was rather more directed to financially DEPENDENT MEN!! 
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| 93. |
12 Oct 2008 Sun 09:35 pm |
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Yes you can decide your own life but you know its just tradition. I dont know sugar. Maybe you can serve sugar (chocolate, lokum etc)
The idea is when the boy comes (in the old times, the girl and the boy wouldn´t know each other, and it would be their first meeting).. the girl serves the Turkish coffee with sugar if she liked him and would like to marry him.. if not, she would serve it without sugar or with salt..
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12 Oct 2008 Sun 10:38 pm |
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the girl serves the Turkish coffee with sugar if she liked him and would like to marry him.. if not, she would serve it without sugar or with salt..
she decides at moment when she sees him first time...... each country has its own "Russian roulette"....
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| 95. |
13 Oct 2008 Mon 03:46 pm |
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she decides at moment when she sees him first time...... each country has its own "Russian roulette"....
Do you know that our body decides at first 20 seconds when we meet somebody first time, whether we will like him/her or not.
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| 96. |
13 Oct 2008 Mon 04:05 pm |
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she decides at moment when she sees him first time...... each country has its own "Russian roulette"....
That is what we call an arranged marriage.. I know for sure that in some countries, they don´t even see each other until after they sign the papers..
And you know in the old times, even in Christian societies, nobody used to go to bed like today.. so in that sense, it sounds okay. the only difference, we still have it
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| 97. |
13 Oct 2008 Mon 04:16 pm |
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Do you know that our body decides at first 20 seconds when we meet somebody first time, whether we will like him/her or not.
yes, i do though rare girl can relax at such emergency situation and listen to the voice of her subconsciousness.
moreover, as i understand no matter what her decision is parents are key-people...
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13 Oct 2008 Mon 04:29 pm |
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That is what we call an arranged marriage.. I know for sure that in some countries, they don´t even see each other until after they sign the papers..
And you know in the old times, even in Christian societies, nobody used to go to bed like today.. so in that sense, it sounds okay. the only difference, we still have it
i know the person whose marriage was arranged. She became widow quite early, though never remarried because she fell in love with her arranged husband....
late christianity valued chastity a lot. in fact now even in america young people are coming back to chastity. dialectics is still alive  )
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13 Oct 2008 Mon 11:18 pm |
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i know the person whose marriage was arranged. She became widow quite early, though never remarried because she fell in love with her arranged husband....
late christianity valued chastity a lot. in fact now even in america young people are coming back to chastity. dialectics is still alive )
My grandparents were both born in a small village in Italy. There marriage was also arranged. They were happily married for 42 years. I always remember how much they loved eachother....but I think they were somewhat of an exception and not a rule.
As far as chastity in America....there are many young people who choose not to be sexually active. I personally feel this is the right decision....however, I firmly believe that it is a choice and should not be made out of fear of retribution from your family.
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13 Oct 2008 Mon 11:33 pm |
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As far as chastity in America....there are many young people who choose not to be sexually active. I personally feel this is the right decision....however, I firmly believe that it is a choice and should not be made out of fear of retribution from your family.
This is what I love about you -- you have your beliefs and preferences, but you repsect other people´s choices.  If only everybody was like that too... 
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