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DUDU fool -proof???
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:12 pm |
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there is a lot of indication, if a guy is a DUDU... but is there any way to know... if your guy is not a DUDU?  just a thought....
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:18 pm |
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Quoting justinetime: there is a lot of indication, if a guy is a DUDU... but is there any way to know... if your guy is not a DUDU? just a thought.... |
yeap,first of all if he is not asking for money he is not a dudu,then if he isn't putting more then 2 "askimsevgilimbitanemsin" in a sentence,then he is not a dudu,if he tries to speak in english and help u with ur turkish,if he doesn't ask u to marry him the second time u talk (or the third or the fourth) and if he isn't a waiter-tourist guide-hotel manager (lol) or anything concerning tourist industry u have a chance he is not a dudu and also if he is under 25 years old check in the myspace-type sites...If he has multible pages in different sites to "make new friends" and oddly his "friends" are all pretty girls then he is a dudu.
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:19 pm |
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P.S Alpha....professor Seytan neredesin????U can be proud now 
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:21 pm |
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Quoting Delidolu: yeap,first of all if he is not asking for money he is not a dudu,then if he isn't putting more then 2 "askimsevgilimbitanemsin" in a sentence,then he is not a dudu,if he tries to speak in english and help u with ur turkish,if he doesn't ask u to marry him the second time u talk (or the third or the fourth) and if he isn't a waiter-tourist guide-hotel manager (lol) or anything concerning tourist industry u have a chance he is not a dudu and also if he is under 25 years old check in the myspace-type sites...If he has multible pages in different sites to "make new friends" and oddly his "friends" are all pretty girls then he is a dudu. |
Very good advice  . Also...he will often want to stay in Turkey NOT get a visa to live in your country 
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:25 pm |
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- He is going to university or has actually had a proper education.
- He doesnt talk to you much about financial problems he is in, if he is, and will certainly not wish for you to help him.
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:29 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting Delidolu: yeap,first of all if he is not asking for money he is not a dudu,then if he isn't putting more then 2 "askimsevgilimbitanemsin" in a sentence,then he is not a dudu,if he tries to speak in english and help u with ur turkish,if he doesn't ask u to marry him the second time u talk (or the third or the fourth) and if he isn't a waiter-tourist guide-hotel manager (lol) or anything concerning tourist industry u have a chance he is not a dudu and also if he is under 25 years old check in the myspace-type sites...If he has multible pages in different sites to "make new friends" and oddly his "friends" are all pretty girls then he is a dudu. |
Very good advice . Also...he will often want to stay in Turkey NOT get a visa to live in your country |
1.he don't ask for money - not a dudu
2.he often calls me aşkım karıcım and other stuff... - dudu??
3.he has been speaking english talking to me, and improving so far, 7 months talking to him. but he is a bad teacher - not a dudu but kinda dudu???
4.he is a barman - dudu situation... i know...
5.he is 22, but i don't think he don't have any other social network pages. - so???
6.he does want me to stay in turkey permanently, and not asking for a visa - this i'm sure not a Dudu sign
7.never ever told me of financial problems, i'm aware he has, but never into details about it... - not dudu...  wow this is really helpful... got anymore?
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:30 pm |
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Quoting Deli_kizin: - He doesnt talk to you much about financial problems he is in, if he is, and will certainly not wish for you to help him. |
This is a VERY good point. Much as I hate to defend the majority of Turkish men () I do notice they are very proud and would not want help from you with financial problems. They are also generous and would help you financially if you needed it
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:32 pm |
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Quote:
This is a VERY good point. Much as I hate to defend the majority of Turkish men () I do notice they are very proud and would not want help from you with financial problems. They are also generous and would help you financially if you needed it |
EXACTLYYYYYYYYY!!!!! my best friend who is a Turk always says "Kayseri'de gel" and I say I must save some money first and he always says "money no probleeeeeem,u silly,I will pay girls must not pay" I think they also have a turkish "law" that women mustn't pay near a man
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:32 pm |
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Look, there's nothing wrong with calling someone 'aşkım' etc. People in love all do. But there is a difference between saying it once, twice, trying to show it and actually MEAN it, and just typing it as a habit in every text, and after declaring their undying love to their canımşekerimbebeğim ask for money and a visa.
You have to learn to draw a line. Its no problem if he works in a bar, the question is: is he planning on doing it for the rest of his life, has he got social secure plans for his money, is he just treating YOU this way or all the girls he serves a cocktail?
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:37 pm |
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Quoting Deli_kizin: Look, there's nothing wrong with calling someone 'aşkım' etc. People in love all do. But there is a difference between saying it once, twice, trying to show it and actually MEAN it, and just typing it as a habit in every text, and after declaring their undying love to their canımşekerimbebeğim ask for money and a visa.
You have to learn to draw a line. Its no problem if he works in a bar, the question is: is he planning on doing it for the rest of his life, has he got social secure plans for his money, is he just treating YOU this way or all the girls he serves a cocktail? |
he lost his job before, and this is the only job he can have now. for now, he is saving money so i can come there (according to him) and he don't want me to spend. and he says he wears, in his left hand, a ring in his finger ( you probably guessed where... ) so that girls don't try to hit on him at the bar. soooo... where is my situation at? what do you think guys?
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:49 pm |
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Something I always notice that seems to be missing from translations is humour and friendship.
Part of love is LIKING eachother - having fun, talking for hours, finding out things about eachother, teasing eachother, laughing.....
If I only received numerous "seni seviyorum askim" messages I would go crazy!
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:51 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Something I always notice that seems to be missing from translations is humour and friendship.
Part of love is LIKING eachother - having fun, talking for hours, finding out things about eachother, teasing eachother, laughing.....
If I only received numerous "seni seviyorum askim" messages I would go crazy! |
well we do talk for hours, so that's a plus.... oh and AEnigma III, seni seviyorum... hehehehe
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:52 pm |
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Quoting justinetime: well we do talk for hours, so that's a plus.... oh and AEnigma III, seni seviyorum... hehehehe |
Ben de blah blah
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:54 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting justinetime: well we do talk for hours, so that's a plus.... oh and AEnigma III, seni seviyorum... hehehehe |
Ben de blah blah |
hey you said you would go crazyyyyyyyyyyyy i'm not feeling it... hehehehe
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:55 pm |
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Quoting justinetime: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting justinetime: well we do talk for hours, so that's a plus.... oh and AEnigma III, seni seviyorum... hehehehe |
Ben de blah blah |
hey you said you would go crazyyyyyyyyyyyy i'm not feeling it... hehehehe |
Well it felt sincere 
If you say it too often I may go crazy
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 06:59 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III:
Part of love is LIKING eachother |
EXACTLY!
I really do believe a love cant survive if it doesnt have a strong base of friendship in it. And friendship consists of so much more than just saying I love you and having sex.
The parts that distinguish a love-relatinship from a friendship are ofcourse very important, but you need to have both in order to make it work.
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 07:00 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting justinetime: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting justinetime: well we do talk for hours, so that's a plus.... oh and AEnigma III, seni seviyorum... hehehehe |
Ben de blah blah |
hey you said you would go crazyyyyyyyyyyyy i'm not feeling it... hehehehe |
Well it felt sincere
If you say it too often I may go crazy |
so is it safe to say now that my boy is dudu fool-proof??? hehehe... i wish other girls would read this too... i feel bad for some girls who are head over heels for some boys who are obviously playing them... i hope this thread helps....
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 07:12 pm |
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GIRLS... this is a must read if you want to know about your man... or boy... hope this thread helps some of the girls here...
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 09:12 pm |
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hehe good advice here-think i am also safe then :O)
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17 Nov 2007 Sat 11:00 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Something I always notice that seems to be missing from translations is humour and friendship.
Part of love is LIKING eachother - having fun, talking for hours, finding out things about eachother, teasing eachother, laughing.....
If I only received numerous "seni seviyorum askim" messages I would go crazy! |
then there goes my almost dudu's dudu status right out the window!  we talk for 6 to 9 hrs every day .. and make each other laugh, hmmm ..
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18 Nov 2007 Sun 12:02 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting Leelu: then there goes my almost dudu's dudu status right out the window! we talk for 6 to 9 hrs every day .. and make each other laugh, hmmm .. |
Congratulations!
He has moved from Dudu to Dodo status. Is there a party to celebrate?  |
C H E E R S !!! this toast is for all the boys who are not Dudus!!!
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18 Nov 2007 Sun 04:07 pm |
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I can say with total conviction that i am not dealing with a dudu!
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18 Nov 2007 Sun 04:16 pm |
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Quoting SERA_2005: I can say with total conviction that i am not dealing with a dudu! |
Sera, dont forget, no girls know that they are dealing with a dudu until certain time.
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18 Nov 2007 Sun 04:24 pm |
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Quoting thehandsom: Quoting SERA_2005: I can say with total conviction that i am not dealing with a dudu! |
Sera, dont forget, no girls know that they are dealing with a dudu until certain time. |
yea thanks for the advice but been there done that,bought the t-shirt and it aint happening again. We know each other so well and our relationship is on a different level than some of these silly holiday romance stories when they share a week with each other and then suddenly they are spending their lives together. I know what i am doing and as i said can be absolutely assured that this is right thing for him and myself.
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18 Nov 2007 Sun 04:29 pm |
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Quoting SERA_2005: Quoting thehandsom: Quoting SERA_2005: I can say with total conviction that i am not dealing with a dudu! |
Sera, dont forget, no girls know that they are dealing with a dudu until certain time. |
yea thanks for the advice but been there done that,bought the t-shirt and it aint happening again. We know each other so well and our relationship is on a different level than some of these silly holiday romance stories when they share a week with each other and then suddenly they are spending their lives together. I know what i am doing and as i said can be absolutely assured that this is right thing for him and myself. |
Oh yes..it happens from time to time..Good luck!!
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18 Nov 2007 Sun 07:00 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting Leelu: then there goes my almost dudu's dudu status right out the window! we talk for 6 to 9 hrs every day .. and make each other laugh, hmmm .. |
Congratulations!
He has moved from Dudu to Dodo status. Is there a party to celebrate? |
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18 Nov 2007 Sun 07:58 pm |
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I feel pretty good about mine. We have too much fun every time we chat, very intertaining. hehehe. thanks for the thread
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 06:30 am |
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are there more ways to tell if your guy is not a dudu?
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 06:43 am |
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He is willing to move to your country to be with you.
He initiates some of the phone calls and expense involved.
He wants you to meet his family and mother.
He accepts your religion and doesn't pressure you to convert.
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 06:45 am |
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Quoting justinetime: are there more ways to tell if your guy is not a dudu? |
Don't be a female dudu is the best advice I can give you! That always seems to be helpful...
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 01:50 pm |
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What does "Dudu" mean?
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 02:44 pm |
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Quoting yilgun-7: What does 'Dudu' mean? |
Straight from the TC dictionary!
dudu
1. colloq. old Armenian woman.
2. archaic title given to women.
dudu
parrot.
dudu dilli talkative; pleasant talker.
Speaks for itself I think
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 03:40 pm |
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Quoting libralady: Quoting yilgun-7: What does 'Dudu' mean? |
Straight from the TC dictionary!
dudu
1. colloq. old Armenian woman.
2. archaic title given to women.
dudu
parrot.
dudu dilli talkative; pleasant talker.
Speaks for itself I think |
I've also noticed that definition in the Turkish dictionary, but there is also an older meaning/use. In Ottoman Turkish it means woman. That is how it is used in Tarkan's song Dudu
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 03:55 pm |
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Didn't we have this conversation twice before already? I remember Trudy's post regarding the parrot...
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 06:32 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Didn't we have this conversation twice before already? I remember Trudy's post regarding the parrot... |
Is that the royal "we"?
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 06:33 pm |
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Quoting libralady: Quoting AEnigma III: Didn't we have this conversation twice before already? I remember Trudy's post regarding the parrot... |
Is that the royal "we"? |
"We" as in a conversation. Its impossible to have a conversation with yourself.....well....maybe not you
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 07:01 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III:
"We" as in a conversation. Its impossible to have a conversation with yourself.....well....maybe not you |
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 10:26 pm |
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Quoting femme_fatal: Quoting AEnigma III:
"We" as in a conversation. Its impossible to have a conversation with yourself.....well....maybe not you |
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You make such a sweet little double act, it makes me feel all warm and cosy inside
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19 Nov 2007 Mon 10:44 pm |
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Quoting libralady: You make such a sweet little double act, it makes me feel all warm and cosy inside |
Awwwwww 
(is it us, or the wine?  )
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20 Nov 2007 Tue 01:03 am |
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This is the main thing about what you guys called "dudus". There are LOADS of girls who have been with their fellahs for maybe even years, laugh together etc. But then it turns out he was the same as all the rest. Every girl says "mine is not a dudu" , he's different...
I have seen guys on their computer talking to 2 or more girls at same time , saying same things, love you, miss you blah blah blah. Making sure the girls don't visit at same time etc.
Asking for money openly so early, or talking about visas etc, are the messages for stupid or impatient "dudus" , however, there are guys who will be with girls for years until they get it. Marry the girl, have their babies, until they get what they want...
There are obviously tell tale signs if the guy is using you, I hate the whole calling them "dudus" thing, but there are plenty of guys who are clever and subtle. Even say they don't want to leave Turkey at all etc to make the girl feel he is sincerely just interested in her, when he has every intention of moving.
Also, there are guys who do sincerely care for girls they happened to meet on internet or on holiday. But there have been many girls sure they weren't being used...when they were.
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20 Nov 2007 Tue 01:40 am |
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Quoting xkirstyx: This is the main thing about what you guys called "dudus". There are LOADS of girls who have been with their fellahs for maybe even years, laugh together etc. But then it turns out he was the same as all the rest. Every girl says "mine is not a dudu" , he's different...
I have seen guys on their computer talking to 2 or more girls at same time , saying same things, love you, miss you blah blah blah. Making sure the girls don't visit at same time etc.
Asking for money openly so early, or talking about visas etc, are the messages for stupid or impatient "dudus" , however, there are guys who will be with girls for years until they get it. Marry the girl, have their babies, until they get what they want...
There are obviously tell tale signs if the guy is using you, I hate the whole calling them "dudus" thing, but there are plenty of guys who are clever and subtle. Even say they don't want to leave Turkey at all etc to make the girl feel he is sincerely just interested in her, when he has every intention of moving.
Also, there are guys who do sincerely care for girls they happened to meet on internet or on holiday. But there have been many girls sure they weren't being used...when they were. |
+1000000000 very very good point 
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20 Nov 2007 Tue 02:09 am |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Didn't we have this conversation twice before already? I remember Trudy's post regarding the parrot... |
yes, we already had this dudu/parrot conversation before
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20 Nov 2007 Tue 11:29 am |
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Quoting xkirstyx: This is the main thing about what you guys called "dudus". There are LOADS of girls who have been with their fellahs for maybe even years, laugh together etc. But then it turns out he was the same as all the rest. Every girl says "mine is not a dudu" , he's different...
I have seen guys on their computer talking to 2 or more girls at same time , saying same things, love you, miss you blah blah blah. Making sure the girls don't visit at same time etc.
Asking for money openly so early, or talking about visas etc, are the messages for stupid or impatient "dudus" , however, there are guys who will be with girls for years until they get it. Marry the girl, have their babies, until they get what they want...
There are obviously tell tale signs if the guy is using you, I hate the whole calling them "dudus" thing, but there are plenty of guys who are clever and subtle. Even say they don't want to leave Turkey at all etc to make the girl feel he is sincerely just interested in her, when he has every intention of moving.
Also, there are guys who do sincerely care for girls they happened to meet on internet or on holiday. But there have been many girls sure they weren't being used...when they were. |
true indeed... you make a very good point. I assume that your husband is a turk, and so is your son (by blood.) What i'm about to say is not meant to be an offense against you, but since i had opened my personal life here, i was wondering if you could share yours. that is if you are willing
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21 Nov 2007 Wed 03:13 am |
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Well actually no, not really. I do not find this site somewhere I would particularly write about my personal experiences or my family. Is there something you want to know imparticular?
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