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RUMORS THAT TURKISH HUSBAND ARE VERY JEALOUS?
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09 Feb 2009 Mon 07:53 pm |
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Yes, Turkish husbands are jealous, as are all people in monogamous relationships. Some try to hide their jealousy, others don´t. How it is manifest is important. I think if you recognize the why and what, it helps deal with it.
Helen Fisher, a anthropology professor at Rutgers University has an interesting talk on monogamy on philosophy talk you can listen to.
Her website can be seen here. She is facinating to read and listen to.
All people? 
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09 Feb 2009 Mon 09:48 pm |
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All people?
Well my dear, some do sublimate and deny this basic human condition...but yes...it´s part of the human chemistry....I didn´t make the rule, but at least I do recognize it..........
Of course, there are some special people who claim to not experience jealousy...However it is a scientific fact that being in a monogamous relationship (is there something about the word monogamous you fail to comprehend?) includes not wanting to share....
I guess you didn´t bother to read the link....hmmm? Too bad, Dr Fisher spent 30 years researching the subject....but of course, you know better.
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09 Feb 2009 Mon 10:07 pm |
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Well my dear, Yikes!! some do sublimate and deny this basic human condition...but yes...it´s part of the human chemistry....I didn´t make the rule, but at least I do recognize it..........
Still, I´m not jealous. Unlike you maybe, I don´t OWN my partner. He has the right and the opportunity to live his life the way HE wants, not the way I dictate. (Might be a nice change for you to look at it that way.)
Of course, there are some special people who claim to not experience jealousy...However it is a scientific fact that being in a monogamous relationship (is there something about the word monogamous you fail to comprehend?) includes not wanting to share....
You are AGAIN accusing me of promiscuity? And then AGAIN later deniying that? Wow, maybe you should look up the word ´hypocrite´ in your never ending stock of ´trustworthy´ (ahem....) links.
I guess you didn´t bother to read the link....hmmm? Too bad, Dr Fisher spent 30 years researching the subject....but of course, you know better.
Read links provided by you, my dear? Sorry, my anti-virus programme is overloaded....
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09 Feb 2009 Mon 10:08 pm |
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Well my dear, some do sublimate and deny this basic human condition...but yes...it´s part of the human chemistry....I didn´t make the rule, but at least I do recognize it..........
Of course, there are some special people who claim to not experience jealousy...However it is a scientific fact that being in a monogamous relationship (is there something about the word monogamous you fail to comprehend?) includes not wanting to share....
I guess you didn´t bother to read the link....hmmm? Too bad, Dr Fisher spent 30 years researching the subject....but of course, you know better.
alameda...I am going to have to disagree with you (I know you are shocked) only because many scientists/researchers have studied many subjects for many years only to have their research later refuted. (I am thinking about many of Freud´s theories in particular). Just because a majority of people fall into a certain behavior type doesn´t mean we all do. Anyway, I don´t think jealousy is automatic in all people regardless of what research is out there....unless you can find a study that interviewed every human on the planet. 
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09 Feb 2009 Mon 10:10 pm |
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unless you can find a study that interviewed every human on the planet.
I´m pretty sure she can find a link about that....
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10 Feb 2009 Tue 12:10 am |
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Still, I´m not jealous. Unlike you maybe, I don´t OWN my partner. He has the right and the opportunity to live his life the way HE wants, not the way I dictate. (Might be a nice change for you to look at it that way.)
You are AGAIN accusing me of promiscuity? And then AGAIN later deniying that? Wow, maybe you should look up the word ´hypocrite´ in your never ending stock of ´trustworthy´ (ahem....) links.
Read links provided by you, my dear? Sorry, my anti-virus programme is overloaded....
I did not accuse you of promiscuity; you read that into my comment all by yourself.
Please consider the fact that my comments are not exclusively intended for you.
If one is in love, and one wants to inspire love in the beloved, isn´t it a better idea to figure what the beloved loves, then become a source of what one´s beloved desires?
Of course, nobody owns another, the key is in being loveable.
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11 Feb 2009 Wed 08:22 am |
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Jealousy is a normal and necessary part of any close relationship. What does not fit into a romantic relation is the "suspicion" that may follow.
"love" goes out, when "suspicion" walks in...
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11 Feb 2009 Wed 02:18 pm |
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Jealousy is a normal and necessary part of any close relationship. What does not fit into a romantic relation is the "suspicion" that may follow.
"love" goes out, when "suspicion" walks in...
Suspicion creates jealousy don´t you think? Why would you be jealous of something that you are not aware of?
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11 Feb 2009 Wed 03:24 pm |
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I think jealousy is a sign of lack of trust. If you trust your partner why should you be jealous of him/her? I wouldn´t be able to live with someone who doesn´t trust me or somebody I don´t trust.
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11 Feb 2009 Wed 03:39 pm |
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I´d call a man/woman who is not jealous at all is ignorant in a relationship.
Lack of trust causes jealousy, but when there´s jealousy, it does not mean that it´s because of lack of trust because there´s one more thing which is something essential (in my opinion) in a relationship that leads to jealousy as well: possessiveness
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11 Feb 2009 Wed 07:08 pm |
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I´d call a man/woman who is not jealous at all is ignorant in a relationship.
Lack of trust causes jealousy, but when there´s jealousy, it does not mean that it´s because of lack of trust because there´s one more thing which is something essential (in my opinion) in a relationship that leads to jealousy as well: possessiveness
Looks like both me and my husband are both ignorant then............ and somehow we have managed to be married for 32 years without being jealous...............
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