This thread and the talk about traditional families has really shocked me. It is not what I have experienced at all. Of course there are some families that have major problems (as there are anywhere) but you can't put everyone in a category just because they keep some old traditions.

My in-laws are somewhat conservative but they have accepted me with open arms even though the relationship has caused them some problems. Those who speak english have become really good friends of mine and those who don't (which is most of them) encourage me to learn turkish and they want me to teach them english and all together they are ten times more generous and friendly than my own family. They have quickly made me relax even though their culture is very different from anything I have seen before.

Hi everyone. I would like to start off first by stating that I also have a Turkish fiance, whom I love with all my heart. I'm a black female from Texas, and he's from Adana-Incirlik. I was wondering if anyone was familiar with the area, and if so, what can you tell me that I should know. Having read through some of the postings on here, I've noticed that everyone is pretty opinionated, and I like that. So if i could get some feedback, I would GREATLY appreciate it.
Thanx