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Selam Melek/Angel:
The replies you have had are awesome and so true. Lyndies is not only an  opinion/replies she is experienced/educated in Psychology and this kind of behavior and more. I do not give up the hope that things could be better he needs counseling or something as Lyndie said it will get worst and this kind of behavior for whatever reason being
1)He is insecure with himself
2)A role model in his life was as such
3) or many other reasons but it is wrong and only put's a strain on your relationship which can be hard anyway's at times without adding to it with ridiculous rules  as if you are a child. Not to mention this can be a mental strain on you and change who you are within after a long period of time or not. My friends man of 25 years 7 kids later is this way but in a higher degree as after the years of whatever his issues were to make him so insecure went untreated not acknowledged blah blah blah who knows, he is very ill in the head and she is now sick as she had a heart attack 2 months ago at 45 and recovering but he works and for now she can not. He doesn't allow her to have her cell phone/any phone and has disabled the/her car so she can not go anywhere even to see her elderly mother at her convalescent home. It has always been this way but it just get's worst. OK now my friend Kathy knows how to enable the car and(fix the wire he has un plugged) if she wants walk to the store and use the pay phone. Her mom is to far for her to manipulate his rules in that manner. He is a complete nightmare. he hates me although I stay away as his ABUSE OF HER by controlling her makes me sick. She usually comes to my house when we hang out which is rare. she is amazing as I could not live that way I would rather be alone and homeless. Of course there is so much more but I do not want to fill up 20 pages with one reply. Plus I think you understand and hopefully will work this out and hopefully you can work it out together, he needs to do something before it is wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy out of control. You know 'compromise,equally'as you said in this post:
and also I see that his family might not like it, but my family are not going like me to change either!!i think the best way to do is compromise,equally!
or another famous POST/QUOTE
'yeah I see that and I have no problem with it, but he should do the same also, if we are equal he should!the way I see it if he doesn't want me to do something he shouldn't do it either!'
Sweetie you deserve to be happy as we all do, and it may be tolerable now it will escalate and become unbearable or destructive to your inner soul and sometimes that damage is un-repairable don't lose yourself your life, quality life that is.See if he wants to work on it as a couple anything is possible with the mutual respect and effort of 2 loving people and a little therapy never hurts anyone for that matter. Lyndie may even know of where you and he should start if he is willing to. I wish you the best of luck and hope you 2 can get past this now as a couple.
Good Luck Angel.
One more comment of the night club issues and men and sheltering from boys per' se well boy's will be boy's and I don't go to bars or night clubs but boy's hit on me all the time weather I am grocery shopping,driving in the car walking to the mail box where ever if they can and want they will be the boy's that they are. Some more aggressive than others but it is there way,as they are boy's and your guy knows first hand how some guys can be and with his issues it drives him to act in such a way as he does. It should not go un noticed this behavior can possibly make him sick too and you miserable. Listen to your heart and your quotes and do what is best for you and him to in the long run anyway's.
Peace & Love & Happiness
to you both 
Tsarevna Stacia
 Kelley
Tr-Eng
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Byesssssss
Lyndies story is so sad 
I wish that lady could just leave. If only for her happiness who knows's if she would Marry again but I'd rather be alone than live that way. I am sad for the 2 boys too as they did not see a happy home and probably were traumatized 
in some manner by seeing such horrible beliefs I feel stigma may turn to be generational for those boys I pray that does not happen. I also pray for their mother 
