But it can also be in real world,just like teaschip has said, ''I'm not going to wear a miniskirt, but then again I'm not wearing a long sleeved shirt and long dress ''

So she is going to respect their traditions,and not going to be odd among them,but at same time,she would have her own space

And i totaly agree with that,because you just cann't pretend all the time to be someone else other than yourself

Or at least other than the one you want,and able to be

he is not ? since when ?

İ wanted to say my opinion in this matter,but i didn't know where to post it,so i thought to open a thread where anyone can post any opinion of his or of her,which it has no place in other threads,

My opinion is about traditions,and some of it which we considered old fashion one,

Something like kissing hands of the elders

yes,it definitely shows respect,and it definitely old fashion too

We long,long time ago used to do same,and kissed our parents hands too
And older people's hands,grandfather,or so

And suddenly we found it old fashion,and to be modern,we shouldn't do such old thing,and kissing hands shows that we follow,we don't lead
So, we just stand up,and said,no we don't follow,we want to lead,and we want to have our own personality

So we started from this,and stoped kissing the hands

Although,kissing hands could only means respect,not to follow the older,just respecting them,and their opinions,and that doesn't mean we have to follow their opinions
We could still have our own personality,and at same time,show them the respect they deserve

But we just did it this way,came the 60th,and we said NO to everything instead of saying yes,arguing,instead of discussing politly

And now younger people don't kiss hands really,at same time they don't have much respect for older people too,as they used to have

They also can shout at their parents,and they can leave the house and go out in the middle of discussion if they were saying something they didn't like
And they call it personality !


İ really wish to see young people kiss elders hands again

Traditions are hard to keep with time,and with mixed cultures in the Media,
World had become like a small village already

So,if you can keep traditions,hold tight to it,it is going to disappear by time

And not easy to get it back....really not easy

When you lose it....,you will appreciate it more

Just my opinion

İ see it as a sign of respect too,i don't think it is a rule applying to every family,each family is different with its own believes,and there are some educated turkish people,who live in a modern and educated turkish families,and has a very open prospect to the western life style,they already lived there,and they STİLL kissing the parents hands,it shows respect,although i never done such a thing before,it is not easy,but,i appreciate it,even they are from the high member of the society,but they don't see no harm in kissing parents hands,out of respect,they have done the hard thing and thats lovely

woow,that would make much difference,
İ'm glad you checked the meaning then