Sorry Mltm I will not argue my precious family's truth with someone who is insulting them being unintellectual and gipsy! You are around 24 and single I think. At that age things are blur and insulting is easy. You said you are native in İstanbul. From that, I assume that you will marry on a church or sinagog. Take my advice, do not take something old something blue, something new. Or do not brake a glass under your feet. Because all you defend before will goes right through the garbage. Traditions does not have to have meanings. We are doing them they are harmless and belongs to us. By the way about that ribbon, right after the tying, before my hubby comes to take me to ceremony, ı took that off and still keeping it in my drawer. Cose my dad once touch it while he was burst in tears and wishing me luck and happiness in my new life. I wish you have something like that to keep memories alive, and makes you smile everytime you touch it.

Hello all,
I am just fighting with my internet company with the problems I have faced with connection problems and then came to my thread and have read so many replies that have just gone totally of the subject we were discussing in the first place. When I looked back on the replies the last 10 or so pages have nothing to do with the topic that was first created here. The forum is a great place to discuss views on very different and sometimes important subjects but I find when reading many posts the title is somehow forgotten and a totally new structure to the heading subject is formed. I do value T.C. it has helped me on many important subjects and discussions that I have faced in the last two years since I met my beautiful fiancee and I always feel that this is the first place I come when I have a subject to discuss.

When I first wrote about this subject I thought it would be intresting to read views and opinions on this subject for myself it is an important time in my life I and Nesrin have made a very life changing decision on our future together that we would like to get married and spend our life together, we have come to this decision very equally and both feel it is the right time to be married. I have never felt love in my life like I have with Nesrin I am now 38 years old and can truthfully say that I love Nesrin but it means something, anyone can say 'I love you' but I trully feel it inside and I have never felt it before with any relationship in my life. My life has totally changed and I have now two wonderful families my family in Istanbul and Nesrin's new family in England I am quickly learning the new culture and tradition of my fiancee's country and respect and am very intrested in learning more about her Turkish culture. I have lived in England most of my life I did for a short time visit Germany alot having a German mother and through those years I had girlfriends but nobody who was a real genuine person like Nesrin, alot of the girls I met especially English girls were false and very uncaring and for a 36 year old single male it only got more difficult finding somebody in my native country. Since then two years ago I have met the most caring beautiful sensitive lovely person I could only ever dream of meeting amongst all these qualities she is my best friend. I will marry Nesrin this year

Hi Richard,

That was the most touching post I have read here and it also reminded me of why I also married my wonderful turkish husband

Like you my life has also changed alot since the time I had met my husband five years ago and since then the void that I had always felt before him is now long gone, so I know exactly what you mean when you said 'I have never felt love in my life like I have with Nesrin' because that is exactly how I feel about my husband Coskun too.

All I can say is that I wish you and Nesrin so much love and happiness in your future together and GOD bless you both always,

Mina

Hello Richard,

congratulations to you and Nesrin.

I'm so happy for both of you. Good luck and God bless.

I congratulate you, it shows that we can find the love of our life when and where we least expect it.

And I hope I will not have to wait until 36 until I find my caring love of my life