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15 Dec 2006 Fri 10:11 pm |
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Quoting tommysbar: Hi guys me and my husband are going through a bad time at the moment and my turkish father in law has told me to text him and tell him what the problems are could anyone please translate the following it is very much appreciated :
HELLO BABA HOW ARE YOU? THE REASONS WHY ME AND ALI ARE SPLITTING UP ARE BECAUSE HE HAS CHANGED SO MUCH.HE DOESNT FACE UPTO HIS RESPONSIBILITIES AS A HUSBAND OR A FATHER. HE MAKES NO EFFORT WITH ME AND AYSE HE DOESNT PROVIDE FOR US WHATSOEVER FOR 3 YEARS NOW WE HAVE BEEN LIVING WITH MY PARENTS AND ALI HAS MADE NO EFFORT TO FIND US A HOME OF OUR OWN, MY FAMILY ARE FINE WITH THIS IF IT MEANS ALI AND ME HAVE A BETTER LIFESTYLE BUT HE DOESNT PROVIDE US WITH ANYTHING. HES EVEN STARTING TO UPSET MY FAMILY WITH HIS LACK OF RESPECT FOR ALL OF US. IM FEELING SO LOW I JUST CANT CARRY ON TRYING TO MAKE ALI UNDERSTAND THAT HES BEING UNREASONABLE, BECAUSE HE JUST DOESNT CARE. HIS PRIORITIES ARE BEER, STAYING AWAY FROM HOME ALL NIGHT AND SPENDING TIME WITH HIS FRIENDS.
I JUST CANNOT UNDERSTAND HIM WE DONT GET ANYTIME TOGETHER AS A FAMILY AT ALL, I HAVE ASKED HIM TO TAKE A FEW DAYS OFF OVER CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEAR SO WE COULD TAKE AYSE SOMEWHWERE AND HE TOLD ME HE WAS BUSY AT WORK. HOWEVER NOW HES TOLD ME HE IS GOING TO TURKEY FOR 10 DAYS AND ME AND AYSE ARE NOT WELCOME. HE DOES NOT INCLUDE US IN HIS LIFE, NOW HE HAS GOT THE ABILITY TO GO TO TURKEY IT SEEMS THAT ME AND AYSE ARE JUST AN INCONVENIENCE.
WHAT CAN I DO? I HAVE TRIED SO HARD FOR THE PAST 5 YEARS TO BE A GOOD WIFE TO ALI AND MAKE HIM HAPPY BUT HE JUST SHOWS NO CONCERN FOR ME , I DONT WANT OUR MARRIAGE TO END BECAUSE I LOVE HIM BUT HES IMPOSSIBLE TO LIVE WITH AT THE MOMENT. HE LIVES HIS LIFE AS IF HE IS SINGLE AND HAS NOBODY ELSE TO CONSIDER.
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selam baba, nasilsin? ali ve benim ayriliyor olamamizin sebebi ali'nin cok degismis olmasidir.. o bir baba yada bir koca olarak aldigi sorumluluklarinin ustesinden gelemiyor.
ali ayse'nin veya bizim ufacik giderlerimizi karsilamak icin bile hicbir caba sarfetmiyor. simdi 3 yil oluyor benim ailemle beraber yasayali ve ali bizim kendimize ayri bir ev bulmak icin hicbir sey yapmadi, benim ailem bu durumdan gayet memnun ama tabii eger ali ve benim hayatim onlarla beraber yasarken daha iyi olsaydi ama o hicbirseye katkida bulunmuyor..
hatta bana ve aileme yeterince saygi gostermeyerek hepimizi uzuyor..mantiksiz davrandigini ali'ye anlatmaya calismaya devam edemiyorum cunku umursamiyor ve ben kendimi cok yikilmis hissediyorum.
onun onem, oncelik verdigi seyler; bira, butun gece evden uzak kalmak, zamanini arkadaslariyla gecirmek.
gercekten onu hic anlayamiyorum hicbir zaman bir aile gibi beraber vakit geciremiyoruz, ona noel icin isten birkacgun izin almasini istedim ve boylece ayse'yi biryerlere goturebilirdik ve bana iste cok yogun oldugunu soyledi.
her nasilsa,bana 10 gunlugune turkiye'ye gidecegini soyledi ve beni ve ayse'yi yaninda goturmek istemiyor.
bizi hayatina dahil etmiyor, simdi turkiye'ye gidebiliyor ,bana oyle geliyor ki, ben ve ayse ona sadece rahatsizlik veriyoruz.
ne yapabilirim? son 5 yildir onu mutlu etmek ve iyi bir es olmak icin cok calistim ama o bana hiz ilgi gostermiyor. evliligimizi bitirmek istemiyorum cunku onu seviyorum ama suanda birlikte olmak icin imkansiz biri.o hayatini bekar ve dikkate alicak kimsesi yok gibi yasiyor.
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