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1.       admin
753 posts
 16 Sep 2004 Thu 11:46 pm

As far as I have seen so far, the main motivation why majority of our members want to learn Turkish is a Turkish boyfriend. Here is the girls section then, tell what you like and what you don't like about your Turkish boyfriends.

We guys won't read, feel free

2.       desire
24 posts
 02 Jan 2005 Sun 01:21 am

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3.       desire
24 posts
 15 Jan 2005 Sat 11:44 am

Hey...! :-S Am I the one that have something to say here...come on !share something...dont be that cruel ...i told you so many things ...you make me feel crazy! Am I??? I

4.       Sertab
136 posts
 16 Jan 2005 Sun 09:47 pm

canım I think u r not the one who has met a special turkish boy

5.       elmoh76
5 posts
 19 Feb 2005 Sat 10:07 am

Hmmmm turkish boyfriends.....well i have been with mine for just ova 3 weeks and he seems ok, even thou he says he loves me already!!! I must admit hes very different from English guys (I am from the UK) and a little insecure and possesive maybe, and is it me or are all turkish guys sex mad? And he works far too hard so i dont get to see him enough but im happy at the moment hahaha. Ask me in another month maybe about turkish men!!!!!

6.       Neyme
4 posts
 22 Feb 2005 Tue 02:48 am

7.       TrueorFalls
7 posts
 23 Feb 2005 Wed 07:36 am

Well, since boys will not read this,me,genderless, wants to make an input into this discussion.
I love gathering info from people and after digesting it, I am ready to share some things. No names, no specific places...
... Turkish boys are very sweet, they know so many beautiful words.
The first word he learnt in your language was "beautiful" The first thing he said when you came to a date was "you are so beautiful" with his exotic accent , which made your heart melt. He knows how to reach the stars for his love,he knows how to make impossible into possible... and the way he looks into you eyes... with such gentelness and such passion, like you are the only girl in the whole Universe and it makes you feel so special! You know how sentimental he is, he is better than your best girlfriend, he may cry with you and for you, for real, but it does not make him less of a man by any means. And also, you know how overprotective he is if someone else is just looking at you, he is ready to feast fight any competition.
And the way he plays with your hand... do you, girls, know what I am talking about? And another thing that I heard from the girls "Turkish guys are so handsome!"
And, and, and, and... Girls, you like Turkish boys...

8.       TrueorFalls
7 posts
 23 Feb 2005 Wed 07:39 am

I have a suggestion...
Let's maybe talk about what girls don't like about Turkish boys! Is there anything that you don't like? Or maybe just say that you like everything!
Or what do you like the most about them?

9.       catwoman
8933 posts
 23 Feb 2005 Wed 09:05 am

hehehe, that's a very good point

10.       elmoh76
5 posts
 25 Feb 2005 Fri 07:55 pm

The only thing i dont like is when he gets his english mixed up for example he was at work the other nite and sent me a text saying he was naked that worried me i texted back why are u naked at work? He said oh i am so tired my baby what he ment to say was he was knackered it was so funny.

11.       Elisa
0 posts
 25 Feb 2005 Fri 10:40 pm

Then you should read this story:
http://www2.egenet.com.tr/mastersj/personal-10-turkish-experiences.html#special%20syrup

There are other funny stories on that webpage as well.

Elisa

12.       Sertab
136 posts
 26 Feb 2005 Sat 06:19 pm

(: Elisa I read those stories some time ago.. some of them r really funny n help u to see life in Turkey in a deeper way.
Btw that site is great!

13.       Elisa
0 posts
 26 Feb 2005 Sat 07:32 pm

It is, isn't it? I bet it takes a year or more before you read and studied everything that's on it. But then again I don't think that's the goal, I think most of the stuff on it is intended to be used in an encyclopaedic way, my honest opion (phew, heavy words for a flu-patient

14.       guzel kiz
0 posts
 28 Feb 2005 Mon 03:46 am

TrueorFalls, I don't like that they are too nice to all of the girls. It makes it hard to tell whether they like you or they are just nice because you are a girl. But it can be a good thing too. It's just a metter of oppinion.

15.       salmonte
1 posts
 24 Apr 2005 Sun 05:47 am

One of the only things I don't like about Turkish guys is that they jump to love demonstrations too quickly. American guys are mostly reluctant to say I love you, however, Turkish guys seem to say it almost right away. It makes it seem like they take it too lightly or that they don't really mean it.

16.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 24 Apr 2005 Sun 11:51 am

hehe
i only said "i love you" just 5 times in my life.. i am 24...

17.       Rogue
4 posts
 24 Apr 2005 Sun 06:45 pm

Turkish men have a propensity to proclaim their love to women in a relatively short space of time mainly because they're such passionate people by nature. Turkish people in general, take the notions of personability and hospitability to new heights - and Turkish men can quickly become 'close' to those that they care about. They are less likely than their Western counterparts to be dishonest about how they feel. They are not afraid to express their emotions. I love you all...

18.       Seticio
550 posts
 25 Apr 2005 Mon 08:04 am

he he and sometimes 'I love you' is the only thing that some Turkish boys can say in English

19.       llconnie
3 posts
 25 Apr 2005 Mon 04:02 pm

20.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 25 Apr 2005 Mon 05:10 pm

hehe
i havent had any foreigner gf
so i cant say anything about it

21.       Seticio
550 posts
 26 Apr 2005 Tue 11:12 am

ha ha so if u can't say anything about why are u witing? ha ha
I know- because u can't live without writing anything

Well I almost had 3 turkish boyfriends, I wrote almost because as it turned out very quickly, none of them were honest... But I still believe that somewhere amongst that near 40 million turkish boys is one reliable and honest and I will find him

22.       Sertab
136 posts
 26 Apr 2005 Tue 10:32 pm

so Seticio have u been living in Turkey??? or were ur turkish bf just 'internet love'? hope u dont mind I'm asking this, I'm just curious

Btw I think turkish boys r quite honest.. lol

23.       Seticio
550 posts
 26 Apr 2005 Tue 11:11 pm

I study oriental philologies so there are quite many Turks at my university. Two of them I met in Poland, one in Istanbul. Writing about my 3 turkish almost-boyfriends I didn't even count, as u called it, "internet loves", because I generally don't trust men who I met through Internet, but I must admit, there was another, the fourth one, who I met that way. It was a friend of another Turk, very nice man living in Krakow, so I thought I could trust him. I was so wrong! he wanted only to meet a girl to move from Turkey to eg. Poland. He invited me to Istanbul, but he expected only one thing from me (I think I don't have to write, what) and I didn't go.
Generally I don't have luck, if talking about turkish boys.
but there are so many Turks that I believe I will find one really nice one day

24.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 27 Apr 2005 Wed 02:59 am

bütün türkler aynı değildir...

i know it and u have to it..
her millettten kötüler çıktı diye bütün millet kötü olacak değil ya?
ayrıca sendeki de eşek şansı be güzelim

25.       Seticio
550 posts
 27 Apr 2005 Wed 10:33 am

U say so? Well, I don't think all Turks are the same ( or more I hope so)...

26.       Rogue
4 posts
 28 Apr 2005 Thu 05:30 pm

May I suggest you two carry on this discussion in a private forum? Hehehehe

27.       Seticio
550 posts
 28 Apr 2005 Thu 08:01 pm

don't worry, the discussion is over: unriable and dishonest people are all over the world, also in Poland.

28.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 29 Apr 2005 Fri 03:17 pm

and also in turkey too

29.       Seticio
550 posts
 29 Apr 2005 Fri 10:23 pm

anlaştık

30.       guzel kiz
0 posts
 30 Apr 2005 Sat 05:12 am

Hi Seticio! Do you mind me asking what is that obsession with turkish boys about? Why are u looking specifically for a honest turkish boy. Sorry if I am misunderstanding something here. Hope you won't miss that real good and honest non-turkish boy while looking for a honest turkish boy.

31.       Seticio
550 posts
 30 Apr 2005 Sat 01:11 pm

no it's not an obsession, it was just the answer for the question. And, as I said before, the discussion is over.

32.       Dilara
1153 posts
 08 May 2005 Sun 01:45 am

I think there are honest ,dishonest good and bad men EVERYWHERE ! there are handsome and ugly men everywhere so I don't agree with this stereotype that all turks are the same or that they are something "special" ... the only special thing they have is that they are terribly good looking and have this exotic accent that blows you away...haha... =)
Selamlar!
Dilara.

33.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 08 May 2005 Sun 02:14 am

why women alwayd forgot to add the "women" if there is a bad thing
always blame men..
that it women's job

34.       Seticio
550 posts
 08 May 2005 Sun 02:20 am

Yes, but look, no men write about turkish girls' shortcomings? Isn't it interesting? Maybe turkish girls are so mysterious or so perfect? If they are, why so many Turks are looking for a not-turkish girl?

35.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 09 May 2005 Mon 01:36 am

hehe..
trust me some of them are like empty drum.. but some of them is so hard.. according to u perfect or mysterious..
u can find all of them like everywhere..
maybe foreigner girls come us mysterious..
they seem to know everything etc..
but i believe that actually they havent got any different..
....



36.       Seticio
550 posts
 09 May 2005 Mon 09:36 pm

probably u are right

37.       berluv
1 posts
 12 May 2005 Thu 01:14 am

OK HI I AM NEW>>> I am new to the whole turkish thing. I now have a turkish boyfriend. I have never even thought much about turkey prior to meeting him before a month ago. So i am interested in some realism. HE seems to perfect so what is teh real story. I am anxious to know others experiences. I Read everythign everyoen wrotge and it is so true.-beth

38.       ELA
41 posts
 12 May 2005 Thu 09:13 am

What i don't like is :

Turkish guys are very jealousy guys or better say very possessive guys ...

But ofcourse they have good side , they are very romantic , kind , polite ,,,,,, and they are with words- they know what woman wnat to hear ...

39.       Lello_in_love
0 posts
 17 May 2005 Tue 12:06 am

Hi Well this seems to be a pretty useless discussion Love cant be described and men cant be compared to eachother. Tho, yeah in general, i think we can say Turkish men just love women so much, that one isn't enough The only solution is to become enough My boyfriend is Kurdish, we've had a long lovestory now, we met on the internet more than a year ago and after getting rejected for the first visa-attempt, he finally could visit me in the beginning of May! It was as if i found ME in him! Everytime i search for him, i find me. Everytime i search for me, i find him. I would never use my man as an example about Turkish boys (Turkish/Kurdish, in this case just men who live in Turkey ) , because he's the only one of his kind in the world. And that counts for every man. He's the rose, and im the vase with water. He grows with what i give, and i become beautiful with what he is. And doesn't that count for every true love? No matter what nationality you are?

I wish everybody lots of luck with your boyfriends If ur meant for eachother, he will be your reflection and ull be his

40.       sue
5 posts
 20 May 2005 Fri 08:39 pm

On the subject of Turkish men I have found them all to be very possesive. I love the way they try to speak in english and mix up there words. I do know they are very caring unlike some American and Canadian men yet they are all in a big hurry for love and marriage. They want it all now. As soon as they think you are there woman for them they just go and dont stop. I am still oddly attracted to Turkish men but there controling does bother me.

41.       misty
1 posts
 22 May 2005 Sun 04:53 am

I am from America, and I married a Turkish man. He is the best thing in my life, he is so sweet and so kind and so caring. I went to Istanbul and that is where we got married. It was the best time of my life, everyone was so great and polite, unlike most Americans. I met him on the internet and we were instantly in love. I have noticed that the Turkish men are a little possesive, but they are romantic beyond belief. They believe in romance and show you how much they do. If I had to do it all over again, I would!!!!!!

42.       Dilara
1153 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 01:29 am

Well, I come from a Latin American country and I think that here Guys are also very possessive and jealous...so that's not a Turkish Behaviour ONLY...But I personally think that being extremely possessive with your partnet reflects not love but INSECURITY and a bit of egoism too...Just to add something new...Why so SO MANY turkish girls changed their hair color and now a lot of them are Blond???!!!!...is that what turkish guys want?? or what???....
I'm looking forward to hearing your comments about this!
Dilara.
Dark-Haired Forever!!! =)

43.       Seticio
550 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 12:01 pm

That's true, many turkish boys like blond-haired girls ( or girls think so), that's the reason why turkish girls change their hair colour. But from my observation I know that more than blonde hair turkish boys like blue eyes (or in other light colour). I was veeery suprised when one of my turkish friends said that he liked my dark brown hair (I'm naturally blonde but I change my hair colour quite often so in every photo my hair is different) but my red hair even more. I asked why (so far I was sure that Turks don't like "kizil sacli kizlar' ( in Istanbul I met only to red hair girls and they for sure weren't Turks)and he answered "because u have grey eyes"

44.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 08:45 pm

well
i dont agree with you..
i had only one gf whose eyes are green..
but of course we left..
anyway..
generally liking/loving doesnt depend on physical apperance..
first u have to communicate with her/him..if u just take care of her appearance, what will you do if she doesn speak with you..
second.. you can just spare time with her..or waste time with her.. that is all..after for a while..not sharing, not talking, not love.. just be together..no emotion..
altough i have this gf,, i prefer to split up...

45.       Seticio
550 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 09:41 pm

Of course, u are absolutely right, but I haven't wrote a word about love here. I was just about appearance. U are right, when u love someone truly, the physical appearance is less impotrant, in further relationship maybe even the least.
Teh story I wrote was about my friend not a boyfriend, I couldn't be with a person to whom my hair and eyes colour is the most important thing. This is something what can be changed. The person's charakter and each other's understanding can't be changed- it is good or not.

46.       Seticio
550 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 10:16 pm

but, Duskahvesi - you are Turk, you live in Turkey, in a city where there are many Turkish girls with "blonde" hair. Maybe you would tell us - why they change their hair colour into blonde?

47.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 10:22 pm

believe me i dont have any idea
but nowadays it is fashion..
a girl who has very brown hair makes her hair blond..
and believe me it seems that she a creature

48.       Seticio
550 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 10:24 pm

oh yes I saw it- I believe you

49.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 10:28 pm

fine

50.       Seticio
550 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 10:33 pm

why u always must write the last word??
anlastik

51.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 25 May 2005 Wed 10:46 pm


u need to write the last word too?
tell me the reason

52.       Seticio
550 posts
 26 May 2005 Thu 01:13 am

No. I'm not always tell the last word, but this time i did it with a purpose: to provoke u. I knew I would work: ve bak , calisiyor, degil mi? he he he

53.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 26 May 2005 Thu 01:38 am

no

i knew why u wrote last sentence..

having fun is always my preference..

54.       Seticio
550 posts
 26 May 2005 Thu 02:20 am

I could just leave your last sentence but I can't

55.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 26 May 2005 Thu 02:36 am

haha
i have a huge attraction

56.       Seticio
550 posts
 26 May 2005 Thu 02:39 am

oh please....u really think it has something in common with u?

57.       ItalianBrat
10 posts
 06 Jun 2005 Mon 06:26 am

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58.       urch1n
1 posts
 06 Jun 2005 Mon 07:23 pm

Hi Italian Brat (!)

I have just visited this site for the first time and read your messages. I am wanting to learn more about turkish rules on marriage and your expereince interests me. I think I have more in common with you than some of the other users. I am English and met a turkish guy on holiday in the south of the country. I have been back there twice and we have been togther each time. I speak to him on messenger and sms.

Was your overall experience a good one. Are you still together? It sounds scary what you mention about honour and the banana fields. I am concerned about the possesivness and pushyness.
I am sure that he will ask me to move with him when I go back in August. Any advice gladly received. Thanks in advance.

59.       bambino
posts
 06 Jun 2005 Mon 08:01 pm

Honour and banana fields...oh my God! Looks like a complete psycho I'm interested in what you said about his family. Do you mind telling more about it ItalianBrat? Thanks.

60.       ItalianBrat
10 posts
 06 Jun 2005 Mon 08:28 pm

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61.       ItalianBrat
10 posts
 06 Jun 2005 Mon 08:37 pm

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62.       bambino
posts
 07 Jun 2005 Tue 01:07 am

Oh my Goodness! Thank you so much for sharing. I'm still shocked about what you wrote. I guess you never really know who you're dealing with; you're very right about your advices - if it's valuable, it's worth waiting. I guess that's the only way to tell what's right and what's not. Congratulations to you for being strong and seeing things before it could be too late. Good luck to you, hope the next man you meet will be the opposite of this one.

63.       widdley
61 posts
 07 Jun 2005 Tue 04:05 am

OK!!! I know you have al been dying to know, so here's my story!
In 2002 I move to work in Andorra on the french/spanish border and met people from all over the world.

I had alot of boyfriends so I know a bit about guys from overseas

Then a while back I moved to Bulgaria, I still live there, just in the UK for a month or 2 visiting family etc.
I had 2 boyfriends in Bulgaria both of which were turkish.

The first one I was with for 5 months, he was nice but worked alot and I mean 18 hours a day which I thought was strange I started to investigate as I had heard rumours that he was already married, not once but FIVE times.

I asked him and he denied it so I had to find ut for myself, Iwent to his house and saw his wife and even then he denied it.

He cried when I ended it and said he loved me as he had from the first week.

It was all lies!!

I got over it and found out he had one baby in the next city and one on the way with his wife. I found out he was a gypsy from Turkey and they don't marry like we do, you only need an agreement between the 2 of you and thats it married!

The second was a different story, he was a bit younger than me, he was wonderful, so loving and caring, full of fun and always passionate, until he started lying.

My father is very sick its one of thev reasons we moved to bulgaria so he could die happy somewhere warm and relaxed, my dad wanted to go fishing and invited my boyfriend who accepted, I was happy we were all getting along, the day came for fishing and when I went to collect him, he didnt have his fishing rod, my dad wouldn't go if he didn't have a rod and offered to take him home to collect it, he said" My mums at work and my dads out and I can't get in the house cos I don't have key, we all knew that was BullSH**, he did have a key, he just couldn't be bothered to get it, my Dad was so upset, he had been looking forward to teaching boy how to fish, but He just wasn't interested, he was only after one thing, so I ended it.

The next week I went out to the bar in his village with some friends, andI am also friends with his friends so we all met up.

His friends told me that not only did he have a new girlfriend but that he had also married her.

Talk about fickle.

But I have not lost my faith, I will find a good man, I don't care if hes turkish, Bulgarian, English, but I know theres one for me out there somewhere just waiting to meet me.!!!!
Love from
Liz
xxxx

64.       catwoman
8933 posts
 07 Jun 2005 Tue 01:59 pm

Phew! That's more then I can handle! Terrible! What's up with these weird 'marriage agreements'? Is it something popular in Turkey?

65.       bliss
900 posts
 07 Jun 2005 Tue 02:38 pm

I don't think it is popular only in Turkey.Look at the chat room and you can understand.Who are they gonna grow into in their real(as one of my good friends said) life.

66.       catwoman
8933 posts
 07 Jun 2005 Tue 03:45 pm

So it IS popular in Turkey?

67.       bliss
900 posts
 07 Jun 2005 Tue 04:18 pm

In the chat room you can see people from all over the world.Unfortunately everyone can go there.

68.       widdley
61 posts
 08 Jun 2005 Wed 02:02 am

you have to get the young so there is less chance that they will already have been married lol.... but there is only so young a girl can go without getting in to illegalities and beleive me some turkish boys and girls are married even under 16.

Its a shame, because even though these marriages aren't legal, us girls still feel hard done by when you find out that the man of your dreams has been married numerous times.

But we soldier on in search of the good guys!!!

Liz
xxxx

69.       llconnie
3 posts
 10 Jun 2005 Fri 08:08 am

70.       catwoman
8933 posts
 10 Jun 2005 Fri 12:37 pm

I'm so sorry to hear that... Hang in there dear.

71.       widdley
61 posts
 18 Jun 2005 Sat 03:44 am

I have a job now, earning cash, so as soon as I have enough I will be travelling to see My turkishh Friend, he is lovely and I can't wait to see him!!
Liz
xx

72.       llconnie
3 posts
 19 Jun 2005 Sun 04:13 pm

73.       Leyla86
6 posts
 21 Jun 2005 Tue 10:02 am

i have been associated with quite a few turkish guys.. friends i mean.. and even now my current boyfriend is turkish.. i will say a few things as a non turkish girl surrounded by a lot of turkish guys.
1.) Turkish guys have jealousy running through their veins. there really is nothing you can do to change that. they will always assume the worst and the longer they think about a particular issue the more jealous they become. Its time to stop asking why turkish men are jealous and just embrace the fact that if he calls you and you dont return his call within 15 minutes you are in for an earful.
2.) "I can look at your woman but if you look at mine i will break your balls" no turkish man will admit it but i swear by this statement. usually it will be your fault if another guy hits on you in front of your turkish guy. he may not say it but he definetly will think it and he most definetly will not forget it.
3.) Men and women are not equal in his eyes. another aspect you must come to terms with if you plan on a future with a turkish guy. in lamens terms "He can do anything he wants and you can do only what he wants". if he respects you enough, which is possible, he will take your feelings into consideration.
4.) this is sad to say but expect a turkish guy to be unfaithful. im sorry to you girls, it doesnt mean he doesnt care about you and it doesnt mean that he doesnt love you but i have heard this myself "you cant eat beans every day" .. most women know when they are being cheated on.. just ask yourself .. would you rather him tell you if he strays so you have to live with it for the rest of your life or would you rather him not tell you so you can live in the comfort knowing he is always coming back to you.
5.) if you can win over the mother you have almost made the home run. the mother is the key. make his mom fall in love with you and the sky is the limit. Turkish moms however only want what they think is best for their "perfect" sons ("perfect" meaning in ones own defenition) and Turkish moms 99% of the time think that the best for their sons is a Turkish women. Beleive me you have to try approxamelty 5 times harder than a turkish woman to win over the mother.
6.) RELIGION ... i dont mean to offend anyone who reads this by my next comment but Muslim men will marry Muslim women. this is almost a guarantee. unless he is willing to give up his family FOREVER which means he really has to love you (and if this is you congratulations .. i wish you all the bast) because i know for a fact that if your turkish man has a even slightly religious upbringing he will not marry a non muslim woman.. sadly but truly a turkish muslim man is usually only playing with any woman of a different religion (if this is you i am really sorry.. but keep your hopes up because your man could be different.. i am just speaking from experience).. something very closely tied to religion is virginity.. if he doesnt love you for who you are he will love you for your virginity. virginity is very important to a turkish guy.. if not one of the utmost important things.. he may love you if you are not a virgin but the number of guys you've been with (if u tell the truth) is very much important to turkish guys...

girls i can honestly keep going.. if someone would like me to i will... but no woman reveals all her secrets in one night..

74.       ELA
41 posts
 21 Jun 2005 Tue 05:40 pm

i am just curiosity what turkish mans think about this

75.       Seticio
550 posts
 21 Jun 2005 Tue 05:43 pm

some of them won't say anything because they feel ashamed, coz they know this is about them and some will feel sorry that there are such guys in their country

76.       ELA
41 posts
 21 Jun 2005 Tue 06:21 pm

I think this is a good oportunity for dukahve to write something

77.       ELA
41 posts
 21 Jun 2005 Tue 06:23 pm

duskahve * sorry

78.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 21 Jun 2005 Tue 06:56 pm

why me?

79.       ELA
41 posts
 22 Jun 2005 Wed 10:20 am

i wrote wrong again , ur nick confusing me DUSKAHVESI i hope is correct now...

Why u ?
I think u started this or i am wrong again , but i see that u like to write also , so maybee u have something to say , and u are Turkish guy , so is this true , what u think about this ? I just asking !

80.       duskahvesi
858 posts
 22 Jun 2005 Wed 03:47 pm

nope
some of them is correct, some of them is uncorrect...

well talk to u later on msn

81.       yanyan samson
2 posts
 07 Jul 2005 Thu 09:47 pm

hi, i'm a new comer and its gonna be my first talk in this community, i really thank you all for posting message here, so that i've got the chance to share all of ur experience and get to know turkey better. my love experience with a turkish guy starts online ( hope dont end online, we have not met yet ) i've been in love with him for nearly 5 months so far...i think he's a very typical turkish guy with all the virtues you've mentioned here, he's totally 10 yrs older than me but sometimes acts like a very cute child. his love words were poured out on me in the first few talks, before i thought we really knew each other , but during these 5 months i find out gradually that he really mean it. althought we just talk online , but i 've got my feeling . he's quite romantic and emotional( i once thought it was due to his job,but figured out in here later that its the common characteristic for tuk guys )yes, i guess most of the turkish guy has no problem in speaking out of love, he learnt how to say "wo ai ni " ( i love you in chinese) pretty fast , tells every of his friend that he's got a chinese girl and shouted my name in taksim square , which make me feel very proud of . he is kinda possesive too ( cuz he cares about me too much )and also has a strong sense of responsiblity for "family" concept . i start getting to know more about turkey lately, i noticed that some of the posts here are about the very terrible and regretable love experience with turk guy ( i hope you could get over it soon and have a brand new start all over again) but it does not mean that all turk guy act like that, right? just feel carefully with ur heart and trust ur feeling. sometimes, we hurt each other's heart too and i feel like i'm losing him ...but nothing could really mess our relationship up... i write down what happens between us everyday in my diary and figure out that after all the happiness and unhappiness we shared together, here we are, doing fine and holding each other's hand even more tightly than ever before . we are on our way. he is supposed to be here with me in the later summer, so my sweet day is approaching, i am quite excited and nervous about it , but i know we are gonna be fine ....he's really a right guy that i've been looking for all my life , i dont know what i did to deserve him , but i know with him i can be turely happy.

82.       CheekyGirl
2 posts
 13 Jul 2005 Wed 09:47 am

Just wanting to know someones opinion on a turkish man with a divorced woman? I read they are interested in the amount of men youve been with.....so if its very limited but you've been married is this a huge issue???

Also do u think the less men a woman has been with is "not cool" to a turkish man whose been with heaps?

i know they might be strange questions but I am curious.

83.       joe_rdl
55 posts
 15 Jul 2005 Fri 07:37 am

Hi all!!... I've been having some male turkish friends for the last 7 months (all of them online friends)and based on my experience I dont think turkish men are passionate men or loving man...I think they are BIG WOMANIZERS!!!!...its true they are caring persons...but more than that I think they are obsesed with foreing girls, and we girls get confused thinking they are soooooooo caring boys.

Based on my experience...I think they like to have control of the relationship (loving or just friendship)..if they dont..then they will change... and sometimes kinda cut relationship.

Hey girls I will give you and advice.... if you dont know your man face to face (I mean, if you only know him by internet) then be careful...take care of your heart....dont believe every nice and cute word comes from the bottom of their heart....believe me turkish guys are such Womanizers!!! they all know the same words...they will all tell you the same thing... I thank God Im not a girl that falls in love inmediatly...cuz I will be in love with all the male turkish friends I have (6) heheheheh

I think u can only know if he really loves you...when he looks deep into your eyes....and just with his look tells you how much you mean to him, how much he loves you (and this is for all men..not only turkish)
take care you all

84.       catwoman
8933 posts
 15 Jul 2005 Fri 07:32 pm

Good post! finally someone noticed .

85.       carla
320 posts
 16 Jul 2005 Sat 01:14 am

I have just had a bad expeience online, with a Turkish guy who pretended to be friendly.....He now has hacked into my MSN account and changed my password and details so I can't access it, and told me the only way he'll give my MSN back is if I do rude things on webcam! Of course I would not degrade myself for ANYTHING, and told him he can keep it, but I have contacted some webmasters. This boy is a blackmailing, evil pervert, I really hope the majority are not like this.

86.       uluejder
19 posts
 16 Jul 2005 Sat 02:54 am

no sh*t!
hey you should publish the name and email of the guy and all the details you know. Forward his blackmailing comments to the police or something. If there's anything I can help let me know. And of course this is not a matter of which country he is from, you can find that kind of scumbag anywhere, in your country, in mine, in turkey, in greenland, etc

87.       Jonathan
30 posts
 16 Jul 2005 Sat 11:28 am

Too true, you really should do something about that even if it is just to publicise his name so that other people do not get caught out by his behaviour. He is a bad example for guys everywhere.

88.       carla
320 posts
 16 Jul 2005 Sat 02:02 pm

as far as I know he is not on this website thank goodness, but his name is Volkan..... I would give his email as well but if he ever finds me I'm scared what he could do next.

89.       Jonathan
30 posts
 16 Jul 2005 Sat 02:14 pm

I understand your concern regarding this idiot. However, even his name Vulkan should still help. And from the male point of view I am sorry that you had to experience something like that, most of us are ok I think. Keep your chin up and learn from the experience. Kendine iyi bak.

90.       Jonathan
30 posts
 16 Jul 2005 Sat 02:16 pm

Sorry, Volkan not Vulkan

91.       joe_rdl
55 posts
 26 Jul 2005 Tue 12:07 am

I think being turkish has nothing to do wih being a psico...you can find those kinda people anywhere!!!!

There is something iteresting with turkish guys....even though they are big womanizers (like I said before), they seem to be good friends....they always listen to what you have to say, they give you good advices, and they seem to worry about their friends.....
On the other hand, based on what I have read in this fourum...turkish guys seem to be cheatera and unfaithful

so my conlusion is: why falling in love with someone who you are not sure about (you cant be sure if he is cheating on you or not)when you can have an awesome friend.....

What do u think about this gilrs????

take care you all

92.       SuiGeneris
3922 posts
 26 Jul 2005 Tue 02:04 pm

actually... yeah some parts are ok... but as you accept that ppl are talk about only bad sides.. being some jealous is wanted in relations if you ask me... coz it goes with passion and love.. if he is not a paranoiac one well its really changes up to where you stay where you live and who you live with... if ppl gets the arche as Human so nothing could affect the others... coz human is the most valuable thing for him... as religion.. a real Muslim could thing the same.. look i am saying real.. coz Islam also things about changes and improvements bla bla... lets say it culture and family not religion...
and culture and family is not that bad point that unable to come over it... coz they want you to be happy too...
thats all i guess... this doesnt mean that Turkey doesnt consist good guys..
best regards,

93.       catwoman
8933 posts
 27 Jul 2005 Wed 05:40 am

Annjoe, I think you're right in what you said again. Of course there aren't any fixed rules but if you meet somebody online or God forbid on vacation, he's almost certainly not someone to be trusted. Good observation - why not make him a good friend though - if he's capable...? The hard part I guess (for some) is to keep their hearts on guard and well protected by reason against the devilishly stupid behaviour of those men.

94.       joe_rdl
55 posts
 05 Aug 2005 Fri 05:07 am

You are right catwoman... for us, the girls, it can get very hard to guard and have well protected our heat...hey but is not impossible!! ...I guess we have to think as action girls, and act as thoughtful girls.
Kendine iyi bak

95.       gra
2 posts
 20 Aug 2005 Sat 12:02 am

Why is this forum only for girls? Some of us boys have a Turkish boyfriend too

96.       Lyndie
968 posts
 20 Aug 2005 Sat 02:40 am

Gra, the forums are not only for girls, did you want to share your thoughts and feelings too?

97.       gra
2 posts
 21 Aug 2005 Sun 02:45 am

Not parcularly....just wasn't sure which one to post on! Think the site is great...can't believe I've only just found it. I met my other half five years ago in Istanbul, and although we live in London now we go back to Istanbul regularly. We hope to move there permanently one day. Not sure about Turkish men in general, but mine is great I do think they seem a little more relationship orientated than others, particularly the British although it's probably wrong to generalise. My Turkish is coming along nicely, although still a long way to go. keep up the good work on the site.

98.       Lyndie
968 posts
 21 Aug 2005 Sun 03:56 am

Well welcome to the site anyway Gra. It is a great site and the people on here are wonderful. Lots of different ages and cultures. If you look on here regularly you'll see for yourself. We kind of consider ourselves class mates and the people generally who use this site are caring kind and helpful.

You are very lucky that you have someone to 'talk' turkish to. The hardest part of learning another language (as we all know) is practising with someone who is a native speaker. There are people on here from argentina, malaysia, america, serbia, russia, well everywhere really.

You can learn a lot about other countries and cultures too if you are interested. If you read all the forums and the essays you can get an idea of what everyone is like.

There is a forum where people share their personal information if they want. Check it out if you are interested.

Anyway, good luck with the turkish - there are quite a lot of turkish guys use this site because they can improve their english, so we also all help each other out as well, but as I said, you are lucky enough to have someone to help you out when you need it.

Good luck with your learning.

99.       ReyhanL
1961 posts
 15 Nov 2009 Sun 11:18 pm

How are things going after 5 years ?

100.       yakamozzz
398 posts
 16 Nov 2009 Mon 12:17 am

 

Quoting ReyhanL

How are things going after 5 years ?

 

4

101.       ReyhanL
1961 posts
 16 Nov 2009 Mon 10:14 am

 

Quoting yakamozzz

 

 

4

 

 ..begining from 2004 till today {#emotions_dlg.bigsmile}

102.       foka
597 posts
 16 Nov 2009 Mon 04:22 pm

 

Quoting ReyhanL

 

 

 ..begining from 2004 till today {#emotions_dlg.bigsmile}

 

 hmm..... im from 2006 till today and still feel " stupid" with this language

 

Rey is much better then me Cry

 



Edited (11/16/2009) by foka [...]

103.       yakamozzz
398 posts
 16 Nov 2009 Mon 05:21 pm

 

Quoting ReyhanL

 

 

 ..begining from 2004 till today {#emotions_dlg.bigsmile}

 

ohh, i thought you meant since last post here

104.       catwoman
8933 posts
 19 Nov 2009 Thu 06:02 am

 

Quoting admin

As far as I have seen so far, the main motivation why majority of our members want to learn Turkish is a Turkish boyfriend. Here is the girls section then, tell what you like and what you don´t like about your Turkish boyfriends. We guys won´t read, feel free

 

OMG.. I think that this is one of the very first posts that was ever made in this forum!! How nostalgic.. Cry

105.       Henry
2604 posts
 19 Nov 2009 Thu 06:36 am

After using this site for a while, my guess at the likely breakdown of users are

1 Predominantly females with Turkish boyfriends, lovers, husbands, and the occasional male with a Turkish female/male friend 

2 People living in Turkey that are not native Turks,

3 People travelling to Turkey for holidays, work or love.

4 Native Turks either helping learners and/or looking for students or friends.

and all have motivation to use the site. 

 

106.       Zimmygirl
25 posts
 19 Nov 2009 Thu 07:30 am

 

Quoting admin

As far as I have seen so far, the main motivation why majority of our members want to learn Turkish is a Turkish boyfriend. Here is the girls section then, tell what you like and what you don´t like about your Turkish boyfriends. We guys won´t read, feel free

 

 You have finally taken the truth, it is true, most people on here are chicks (girls) that has had an episode of some kind of love with a Turk (including me.  I fell inlove with a Turkish dude once and after that I just know I will marry a Turk. Honestly, I can´t see myself marrying anything but a Turk

 

What did I like about my Turkish man?

 

*He loved me for me!

* He was EXTREMELY warm hearted and almost empathetic, which is something really special.

*He was EXTREMELY protective and JELOUS, which was nice at most times. The best part was when we would walk down Eminünü and some Turkish people (mostly men) would stare at me, because it is rare to find Africans in Turkey. My boyfriend would puff up and give all of them a look that said "what are you looking at?"

*He loves family and children, which is something I truelly find sacred

*Religiouslly stable person. Not fanatical but not too relaxing either. He is a firm person

*Charming! EXTREMELY charming "ay gülüm, bugün çok güzelsin", "çikolata sevgilim"

*He claimed me!! The first week of us dating I met the family!! It shows honesty

*He would literally feed me I learned to love that

*He cried a lot too, very emotional person. I remember us watching the news, and we saw reports on the Palestine-Israel situation, the report showed some children suffering ect. He burst out in tears. He has a good heart.

*He was physically hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Damn, he was one fine man.

*The best of all, he kissed beautifully. I will never forget, our first kiss was near the Ayia Sofia. It was a rainy day, he was holding the ambrella. He just grabbed and kissed me in the middle of the street. The street was full of people, trumb running buy and taxis packing up. He kissed me right there in the middle of the rain, in the middle of the street and EVERYONE  was watching. Now that was the most beautiful thing I have ever had.

 

What didn´t I like about him.

* Stubborn!!!!!!!

*Controlling

*Jelous. We had like a million fights about him needing to calm down and stop being so jelous. Ofcourse, I lost most of the fights.

*Difficult at most times. If he wants to see me now, he wants to see me now. . Or he would send a friend to go do shopping with me so that no other men must come talk to me.

*Clothing!! Everytime I would get a preeching that I am not dressed modest enough. In Turkey I was dressed very modest, but also very fashionable. But I still got a preeching of how my boobs are "exposed" HE WAS CRAZY

*CRAZY!!

 

What have I learned from him

 

*Love like you have never loved before.

*To receive love and enjoy it as much as you can

*I really want to get married and have meles children in Turkey

*I learned to be patient with him, after all he never did me harm. He was the most supportive man in the world.

*I also become a bit jelous too. I found myself hating some of the girls who kept looking at him. He was very attractive young man.

*I learned to not care what people say. So what if he was Turkish and I am African? That didn´t matter to us.

 

I also learned words like

"Allah sabır ver!" "Allah cezani vermisin!!" "la havle vela kuvete" "hala hala" When we had our fights those words were used much often

 

But most of the time. I heard "esmer meleğim" , "canim", "zimcik", "eşim",  "seni çok seviyorum yaa", "tamam, ağlama canım" and other special words

 

TURKISH GUYS ARE SWEET AND REALLY LOVELY. BUT VERY DIFFICULT TOO BUT WE STILL LOVE YOU

 

107.       clhyman
59 posts
 19 Nov 2009 Thu 03:17 pm

Awwww Zimmygirl...you melt my heart...... Thank you for sharing your beautiful experience Smile

108.       catwoman
8933 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 12:28 am

 

Quoting Zimmygirl

*I really want to get married and have meles children in Turkey

 

Did you mean that you want to have "male children" ?

109.       ReyhanL
1961 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 12:31 am

 

Quoting catwoman

 

Quoting Zimmygirl

*I really want to get married and have meles children in Turkey

 

Did you mean that you want to have "male children" ?

 

 Or maybe she wanted to say "many children" {#emotions_dlg.unsure}

110.       Deli_kizin
6376 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 12:46 am

 

Quoting catwoman

 

 

OMG.. I think that this is one of the very first posts that was ever made in this forum!! How nostalgic.. Cry

 

 Yes Especially reading one of my posts, so pink coloured and poemy So much has passed, changed (for the better) in our lives and relationship. So many things we have been through together. I wouldn´t write the same pink post now, but still love the things in him I loved back then when I wrote that post. And I have more reasons now to do so

111.       Deli_kizin
6376 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 12:47 am

 

Quoting ReyhanL

 

 

 Or maybe she wanted to say "many children" {#emotions_dlg.unsure}

 

 or ´melez´ (of mixed blood)

112.       Deli_kizin
6376 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 12:48 am

And DAMN just realised that 5 years have passed! {#emotions_dlg.wtf} {#emotions_dlg.owned}

113.       catwoman
8933 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 12:55 am

 

Quoting Deli_kizin

 

 

 Yes Especially reading one of my posts, so pink coloured and poemy So much has passed, changed (for the better) in our lives and relationship. So many things we have been through together. I wouldn´t write the same pink post now, but still love the things in him I loved back then when I wrote that post. And I have more reasons now to do so

 

hahahahahha, I´m glad I had removed my reply to that first post.. lol {#emotions_dlg.shy} You used to write quite a lot in pink by the way. {#emotions_dlg.laugh_at}

114.       Deli_kizin
6376 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 12:57 am

 

Quoting catwoman

 

 

hahahahahha, I´m glad I had removed my reply to that first post.. lol {#emotions_dlg.shy} You used to write quite a lot in pink by the way. {#emotions_dlg.laugh_at}

 

  I know And it makes me happyyy looking back hahaha!

115.       clhyman
59 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 01:04 am

I am one of the select few that just randomly googled Turkish and that is what motivated me....

 

No sexy Turkish man....

 

No msn chats that I could not understand...

 

None of that at all...

..........

 

  ..........   yeah right {#emotions_dlg.satisfied_nod}

116.       catwoman
8933 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 01:20 am

 

Quoting clhyman

I am one of the select few that just randomly googled Turkish and that is what motivated me....

 

No sexy Turkish man....

 

No msn chats that I could not understand...

 

None of that at all...

..........

 

  ..........   yeah right {#emotions_dlg.satisfied_nod}

 

Hahahahah, and I was just going to congratulate you!! {#emotions_dlg.get_you}

117.       clhyman
59 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 02:14 am

Sorry catwoman...i am as weak as the next woman {#emotions_dlg.lol_fast}

118.       TheAenigma
5001 posts
 20 Nov 2009 Fri 03:02 pm

 

Quoting admin

As far as I have seen so far, the main motivation why majority of our members want to learn Turkish is a Turkish boyfriend. Here is the girls section then, tell what you like and what you don´t like about your Turkish boyfriends. We guys won´t read, feel free

 

 This is very sweet actually.  It recalls TC in a more innocent era.  A time before "east v west" and a time when the word "dudu" merely meant parrot

 

119.       maisie
31 posts
 22 Nov 2009 Sun 11:03 pm

 

Quoting TheAenigma

 

 

 This is very sweet actually.  It recalls TC in a more innocent era.  A time before "east v west" and a time when the word "dudu" merely meant parrot

 

 

 You mean it´s changed??!!Cry

120.       Zimmygirl
25 posts
 19 Jan 2010 Tue 04:53 pm

 

Quoting ReyhanL

 

 

 Or maybe she wanted to say "many children" {#emotions_dlg.unsure}

 

 Hey ladies

 

I said I want to have "meles" children aka mixed children clearly i am african , he is turkish.....so... it could only that we will have mixed children. in turkey mixed is called "meles" and i think it is a beautiful.  thank you ladies

121.       ReyhanL
1961 posts
 19 Jan 2010 Tue 05:00 pm

 

Quoting Zimmygirl

 

 

 Hey ladies

 

I said I want to have "meles" children aka mixed children clearly i am african , he is turkish.....so... it could only that we will have mixed children. in turkey mixed is called "meles" and i think it is a beautiful.  thank you ladies

 

 melez {#emotions_dlg.bigsmile} You confused us.

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