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Buddhist marry Muslim
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06 May 2007 Sun 11:53 am |
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Quoting mltm: Quoting femme_fatal: mltm
thank you for sharing!
that gives some picture.
recently married you are, arent you?  or going to marry?  have i guessed right? |
No, you're wrong! But when I moved to a christian dominant country, I realized that I didn't really belong to their culture, and I found out that rather I was closer to so-called muslim culture even if I had never practised it. I wore off my prejudices, I met practising muslim girls, and I let myself be more open to İslam, I found myself defending the muslims since here I see a lot of prejudiced people against Turkey and muslims. I also went out with a real muslim man, I say real because he was not hypocrite or fundamentalist, he was such a modest respectful and pure man, he helped me to wear off my prejudices a lot.
I think we have to find the line between being cautious and being prejudiced.
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mltm,
so i was right.
1. you're prejudiced to christian countries (i may understand you, why, not only culture but also mentality difference)
2. you have a man "boyfriend" who's working on your perception of the world. (many non-muslim women did and do so, you're not the first and last).
thanks,
take care
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06 May 2007 Sun 06:12 pm |
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Look we have people from all over the spectrum calling themselves muslim, but that doesn't mean they are. They are all lacking dîn. You can't judge all of us because of that.
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06 May 2007 Sun 06:40 pm |
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Quoting femme_fatal:
mltm,
so i was right.
1. you're prejudiced to christian countries (i may understand you, why, not only culture but also mentality difference)
2. you have a man "boyfriend" who's working on your perception of the world. (many non-muslim women did and do so, you're not the first and last).
thanks,
take care |
I already knew you would say these.
I'm not prejudiced against the european countries, it's the other way around, there's an ignorance about Turkey and Turks, I just try to preserve my identity and defend my people and country against the unjust prejuduces, being among them has made me be closer to my ties, that's all. Maybe, I should thank this, it has caused me be more productive.
2. It's already over, but what I wanted to say was that he helped me erase my prejudices a lot. Who can say that he is never influenced by people around him? By this way, we discover ourselves and create our personality.
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06 May 2007 Sun 08:56 pm |
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In keeping with the flavor of how this thread has gone on...I am wondering if any Muslim living in Turkey has understood any difference in the dynamics between the men/women they meet or know who are Christian living in Turkey? I mean if a Muslim person comes into a Christian home...Does that person notice a great difference in how the husband and wife interact with one another that is in great contrast to how a Muslim husband and wife interact?
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06 May 2007 Sun 10:09 pm |
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Quoting mltm:
I already knew you would say these.
I'm not prejudiced against the european countries, it's the other way around, there's an ignorance about Turkey and Turks, I just try to preserve my identity and defend my people and country against the unjust prejuduces, being among them has made me be closer to my ties, that's all. Maybe, I should thank this, it has caused me be more productive.
2. It's already over, but what I wanted to say was that he helped me erase my prejudices a lot. Who can say that he is never influenced by people around him? By this way, we discover ourselves and create our personality. |
you're a victim of patriotism.
as for the ignorance of turkey and turks, whats wrong in that? is it forbidden?
you were tabula raza before, its easy to shape up a such state, so someone has already taken the advantage.
its absolutely your business.
anyway, never stop searching.
good luck!
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07 May 2007 Mon 02:09 am |
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07 May 2007 Mon 02:19 am |
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Quoting vineyards:
For sure, Turks are not as obsessed with religion as Arabs are. |
İ dont understand your sentence vineyards,raising many questions in my mind.
First,is obaying a religion is an obsession ?!
Second,is being Muslim means to miss treat your wife ?!
Third,is obaying a religion is something we must be shame of ?!
Forth,%99 of Turkish people are Muslims,sorry for the question,but did you ALL saw your father miss treat your mother ?
Or ALL Turk not obsessed with religions,and they dont follow it,so that doesnt happen in Türkiye ?!
Or maybe,just maybe,they treat their wives well because,its written in the Holy books ?!
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07 May 2007 Mon 02:23 am |
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TeresaJana,im curios,how do you think a Muslim husband and wife interact with each other ?
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07 May 2007 Mon 02:40 am |
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Quoting panta rei: Quoting gezbelle:
one side of my family are buddhists and they are all married  |
So, are you a Buddhist, gezbelle? I mean, is there any barrier for us not to marry?  |
no i'm not buddhist
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07 May 2007 Mon 02:56 am |
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to answer your question Canli, I would say they interact quite nicely with each other considering they are both brought up in the same culture. My question was what does a person of turkish or muslim culture notice what they might or might not tolerate specifically by observing others from another culture or religion. i was hoping for some actual examples but perhaps that might be too inflammatory?? scared? lol for example I did know of a pakistan man married to a christian american woman and she was okay to wear western clothing, but she was not allowed into a room full of men nor to smile at them in any way or talk to any unless they specifically asked her a question. you see, she had to 'learn' a different way of mingling with people from what she was used to and may I add, he taught her rather forcefully instead of kindly.
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07 May 2007 Mon 03:02 am |
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Well,i guess its something got to do with culture rather than religion.
For example,here,we are Muslims and Christians living in same country,if you go int a Muslim house,or a christian house you wouldnt feel any differences,except in Muslim house the woman put on the Scarf if she wears it and the visitor was a man,and in the Christian house the cross on the wall,nothing more.
İ travelled to some Arabic country long time ago,about 10 yrs,and in that time women werent allowed to sit at same room with men if they are strangers,but if they are family it was ok.
So,its different cultures more than religions.
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