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What Pam Coo's case means to you Turkish serious friends??
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15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:33 pm |
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I agree with you here 
Quoting Deli_kizin: Quoting maria/mesut:
I`m sure we all agree we`re happy not to be in her shoes right now - so please be nice to this poor girl.
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All nice and well, but I for one, would never end up in such a situation (one in which I willingly had sex, that is). |
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| 31. |
15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:36 pm |
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Quoting maria/mesut:
I`m sure we all agree we`re happy not to be in her shoes right now - so please be nice to this poor girl.
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This one i found really harsh.
This was not about how others may feel, also not about making a poor girl out of Pam. You may feel sorrow for her that is obvious, but you are clearly judging her here... And without giving any alternative to her. Just a "poor" labeling. Psychologically wrong...
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| 32. |
15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:39 pm |
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Uhhh hello? Didn't you say for her to "grow up"? If that isn't judgmental I don't know what the hell is dear!
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| 33. |
15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:40 pm |
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First of all I didn't mean by my thread to Judge or joke about or use someone's problem to get fun.
Pleas read the title again ... this case what means for serious people?
To those who are know this world very well and also know themselves as well. Others are the mirror of your life you can read their ideas to see where are you in this life. the most you know different comments and thought the best you can see your face in the life's mirror. All of us has it's own problems and hard times.
Wish that girl doesn't take the topic in personal and I ask her to look at the mirror of these comments and then say what does she feel!
Best regards to Pam.
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15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:43 pm |
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Quoting portokal: Quoting maria/mesut:
I`m sure we all agree we`re happy not to be in her shoes right now - so please be nice to this poor girl.
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his one i found really harsh.
This was not about how other may feel, also not about making a poor girl out of Pam. You may feel sorrow for her that is obvious, but you are clearly judging her here... And without giving any alternative to her. Just a "poor" labeling. Psychologically wrong... |
That was not what i meant to say, but i understand it may understood that way (I`m not a native english speaker, sorry people )
Yes i feel sorry for her. Even though i have never been in a situation like that i can only imagine what she`s going through. This all started with Pam asking for translation help, so she could tell the boy how she feels about this.
I wish it would have stayed in that way, so people who were able to help her could do that. I`m sure that was what she wanted. I`m sure it`s not easy for her to talk about her privatelife here, but maybe this was her opportunity to get some help in the turkish language.
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15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:43 pm |
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Quoting girleegirl: Uhhh hello? Didn't you say for her to "grow up"? If that isn't judgmental I don't know what the hell is dear!
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No, it is not.
Immature, now this is a judgement.
Taking hard on me, girleegirl?
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15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:50 pm |
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Yeah...I am
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15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:51 pm |
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I'm still confused...because she got pregnant in a situation that no-one wants to be in , and can see how upset she is, why are people just pointing out the negatives rather than trying to help. Of course, she realizes what she's done. Why not try to be nice rather than just point out that it's not a goos situation to be in? Are people actually feeling better for just telling this girl who is having such a hard time that she's made a mistake? And the people who sent her those rude negatvie private messages should be ashamed. Something I have seen happen a lot on this site, is people are very eager to judge, critisize etc. then say they are just helping. May be your intention, but maybe we should think about how it's coming across. Also, some people spend a lot of time on here posting and sending private messages. I think a lot of the people who agree with some comments are unaware of the private messages that are being sent in private too. But I have seen several girls receive unnecessary rude private messages. I just think a thread specifically about this situation was pretty vulgar.
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15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:51 pm |
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Quoting girleegirl: Yeah...I am |
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15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:52 pm |
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Quoting xkirstyx: I'm still confused...because she got pregnant in a situation that no-one wants to be in , and can see how upset she is, why are people just pointing out the negatives rather than trying to help. Of course, she realizes what she's done. Why not try to be nice rather than just point out that it's not a goos situation to be in? Are people actually feeling better for just telling this girl who is having such a hard time that she's made a mistake? And the people who sent her those rude negatvie private messages should be ashamed. Something I have seen happen a lot on this site, is people are very eager to judge, critisize etc. then say they are just helping. May be your intention, but maybe we should think about how it's coming across. Also, some people spend a lot of time on here posting and sending private messages. I think a lot of the people who agree with some comments are unaware of the private messages that are being sent in private too. But I have seen several girls receive unnecessary rude private messages. I just think a thread specifically about this situation was pretty vulgar. |
Very well said!!
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15 Sep 2007 Sat 08:54 pm |
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Quoting maria/mesut: I`m sure it`s not easy for her to talk about her privatelife here, but maybe this was her opportunity to get some help in the turkish language. |
This is part of the point. If you ask for this kind of translations on a public site you are allready talking about your private life. Everybody can read what is happening. And than it's more than normal people think something about what they read....
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