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Karekin04, though my successstory hasnt passed a decade yet, I know what you are takling about. I came accross the same kind of stories on internet, and wondered if i was making a right decision to leave my own country at such a young age in which the chances for a good life were right in front of me.
I realized that the times I was upset about these stories, were the worst times in our relationship. Suddenly my faith was gone, on behalf of someone I dont know at all, whose relationship may have ended for much more different reasons than he/she told on internet. Kadir realized my weakness and it hurt him very much.
Now, I have been here for around 8 months, and the biggest problem in our relationship is me: being unexperienced about love, suddenly having to start a life in a country that is strange yet so known to me, in a life where i live with many uncertainties just for the day. My biggest support is Kadir, and I can tell with honesty: its a miracle he's still able to stand me 
Also, the life I learnt here, is very different from in the stories. Being around Kadir a lot, I also have many male friends. I think I can say with honesty that none of them is capable of doing what the men did in the stories. They are more modern and good-mannered than many men i know in holland.
Maybe we have not passed a decade yet, but the first steps make the foundation to reach that decade and more, and İ think ours is a successtory. You must not forget that a relationship between two different cultures is always hard. I am not saying harder than any other relationship, but from different angles you live different problems. It does not depend on the culture where youre from if you can handle this: it depends on whether your strong enough.
I hope time will proove I am strong enough, because I can say Kadir definitely is.
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I think they got used to my funny words tho. I will add yours behind what İ said to make it more clear. Thank you very much!
