| 5872. |
07 Feb 2006 Tue 06:14 pm |
|
Quoting ramayan: i think we should ask dis questions to our famous lovers like deli kizin,miss-c,these r the ones i know ...
but i think that love is beutiful evrywer with everybody... |
Wow i feel honoured now to be named here (a)
It's true, there are lots of differences you have to overcome and you have to be open against the other culture. There is one mistake you MUSTNT make tho. The other person LIVES in another culture, but he IS NOT the culture itself. If you forget this, you will find out that you argue about many silly things.
Also, it is very likely that you will misunderstand eachother easily, because feelings and words are as well different as morals and principles in a different culture. You need to find harmony in the differences, maybe even cherish them. I love the differences in our personalities, because it makes me feel more complete. I learnt to look from another point of view too. It's not always easy and i still make stupid mistakes and ask silly questions, but as long as Kadir loves me, he can bring up the understanding and respect to explain to me and be patient.
I am raised in a country where freedom is the most holy thing that exists. I always thought that for example, freedom of speech and independecy where the best things a person could achieve and keep in life. Now i learnt to look at this less strict and I even doubt if this western-idea of 'Goodness' is actually that good. It doesn't turn me against my own country, my own background, but my relationship didn't only teach me how to love, it also taught me to look at things from different sides.
I think love can be more sparkling if you both have different backgrounds and LEARN how to respect those backgrounds. You need to try to make a mixture between the good things of both 'cultures' and try to solve the 'bad' things. If you realise that some things of your different point of views cannot come to harmony (this hasn't happened to me tho), you should learn to leave this aside. Dont't argue about the differences all the time, just learn from them and enjoy the things you have in common. Because even the things you have in common, are different in another place in the world. It's half the fun!
One thing that is often mistaken, is that love is all you need. Love is not enough to make a relationship between different cultures succesful. But it is the binding ingredient that if strong enough, gives you enough power to overcome any difference 
|
|
She kicks ass! If someone wants more songs, i can send 