|
I guess you have to divide it into two different groups:
(i) those foreigners who come to Turkey to get a child, and then take it away to their new country
(ii) those foreigners who live here long term, and who end up getting close to and looking after a child, but have never been allowed to formally adopt.
Most of your negative comments are about case (i).
I have three friends who fall under case (ii). Let me tell you the story of one of them.
One of their neighbours had a young toddler. She wasn´t coping very well. So they used to look after the child and babysit, and take the child out with there own children. Then one day the neighbour had to go into hospital. She asked them to look after her child while she was ill, as her husband was at work all the time. They did this. When she came out of hospital, she and her husband wanted to move to another city, but not take the child with them. She said "you help my child, would you be willing to look after her?" My friends were scared this could become a legal nightmare so they agreed, but only if social services were involved and said it was OK. Social services said you can only foster, foreigners cant adopt, even if the parents are willing.
So they have looked after C for nine years now. Every time mum visits it is clear she has a drink problem, and she cannot make a good relationship with C because she does erratic things that scare her. My friends love C and treat her like their own children. She is happy in the family. But they all know that anytime her mother can come and take her back, and that is very unsettling.
Not all adoption cases are like Madonna!
|
