Damoon,
You mention that you havent really discuss this "religion" thing with your boyfriend. Do you you think its wiser and better if you do so that you know what he really thinks about this subject. You will just make yourself sick of thinking too much. For all you know he might not want you to convert then you're stressing yourself for nothing. If he does then its time for you to really weigh the relationship especially your feelings for him. If you dont mind converting then no problem but then i presume you value your religion too. If he wants you to convert and you don't want to, then i think its time to move on. Spare yourself and the guy more heartaches .

Katoo7, please don't get me wrong. If you are happy this way, if it's something you believe in and feel good about doing - keeping your free thinking and independence - I absolutely agree with you. However, I'm against the attitude of a guy who expects the woman to compromise or change for him, and of course doesn't even consider himself doing anything similar for the sake of the relationship. I'm against women being coerced into converting because the boyfriend threatens that otherwise they cannot be together or marry. This is a horrible type of manipulation that establishes the man's dominance and ownership of the woman's thinking and her choices, which is just the beginning to all the other manipulation he's ready to do if he has the capacity for it. Seeing how strongly a male dominant religion Islam is (remember - women are inferior according to them!!!), you need to be very careful what you're getting yourself into and what your bf's and his family's attitude is if you don't want to end up in a place of misery and no return. There are too many examples of women converting into Islam for their bf's, then moving to their country at which point the sweet, loving man she thought she knew turned into a beast under the influence of his family and culture.

Also, "compromising" is something BOTH sides are supposed to do, not one.

By Sharrifa Carlo

"In reference to women, the Quran and the Hadiths have mandated various rules in regard to behavior, appearance and rights. Some of these may seem constricting to western women, causing them to pity Muslim women, but these women fail to realize that Muslim women do not feel constricted by these rules; we feel liberated, and in fact, as Muslim women we should pity western women. The Muslim woman is not forced to display herself to find a husband. She does not lower herself into competition with other women, using her body as a lure. Secondly, the Muslim women supports no man. Her property is off limits to her husband. It is his duty to provide for her and her children, regardless of her personal wealth. Thirdly, the man has no right to physically harm his wife. While some western scholars negate this by quoting from the Quran that a man is allowed to beat his wife, they fail to mention that the only condoned instrument for this beating is a siwak. (A siwak is a piece of wood, used as a toothbrush, about as thick as a pencil, and about half the length.) It is highly doubtful that this instrument could cause a child any damage, much less a woman."

The second and third reason is hilarious.

The Western concept of women's freedom and rights, in reality, equates women's rights to their "right" to three main things:

1. Taking off their clothes or wearing skimpy clothes.

2. Taking on jobs outside of the home

3. Mixing with men.

Sigh, there goes the drinking, clubbing, wearing halter tops or skimpy dresses. And all the guy friends and exes...can't talk to them anymore. As to the 9-5 gig, sigh, geez women will just have to sit on their butts all day, do a little cooking and maybe switch to commodities trading or something from home. Ok, I'm just joking... who knows what the heck I'll do (I don't even know myself) and men say that women can't make up their minds .