I hope to talk with you surely I was entered every day to Facebook but i didnt find you may be we are entered in a different times in any way i hope to meet you in facebook

Hadi ya! 

First of all, I personally think that being gay is not some sort of mental illness which will prevent you from properly functioning in the army. The Dutch army has gay people in it, and it has never led to problem.

Being gay doesn´t prevent you from serving in the army.  You have a right not to serve in the army if you are gay. You have to prove it. If you dont want to prove you can do your military duty.

Secondly...really... No other way to prove that you are gay? I think that a conversation with a trained psychologist will be enough. I think it is just inhuman and against any basic human right to ask for men to provide pictures of their sexual actions, while smiling! As if being gay only has to do with sexual actions! I knew I was hetero sexual long before I had any sex. It´s crazy to approach this matter in this way.

In Turkey you could easily find a trained psychologist willing to approve that you are gay if you pay him enough money. I also don´t approve showing pornographic pictures as an evidence to prove that you are gay. But nobody force you to take such pictures. I think every people must have a right not to serve in millitary. This could solve the problem.

I think it´s noticable that I get really upset about this It´s already hard for a lot of gay men in Turkey to come out of the closet for their sexuality, and than for some of them (luckily not all) to be subjected to this kind of behaviour is very sad.

I agree.

ben sevgimi disardi vurmam belli etmem

I think I have upset my friend! He sent me a load of messages which I have tried to translate but I think I am missing out a lot. Could someone please help me with this:

seni dövmek - think he´s going to beat me up (joke) correct

çok kızgınım sana - he was very angry with me correct

duşmu aldın sen? - closest I got was he was asking if I´d had a shower (really don´t think that´s right though!) Did you take a shower?

çözemiyorsun demi - possibly something about also finding it difficult? You don´t solve/understand right?

çok zor demi - again something about it being difficult (not sure what though - possibly communicating?) It is very difficult, right?

hadi çık işin içinde - I got: come on out ray of light inside - probably totally wrong! Here find a solution now if you can.

I am trying to learn but having difficulty conjugating my verbs. Any help would be gratefully received.

Many thanks

Debs

I just watched a documentary that really shocked me. As in basically all countries, you don´t have to go to military service in Turkey if you are good medical or psychological reasons why you are not fit. Apperently being gay is one of those reasons. The biggest shock was how people have to prove that they are gay. In some cases the men just had to talk to a judge, and this was evidence enough. In other cases photographic evidence was required. One man talked about how he had to show a picture of sharing a gay experience with a man. Basically a pornographic picture. The picture was denied as evidence because he didn´t smile enough.

Sick sick sick... How can you make people prove that they are gay in such a way?

Pls help with translation. I have figured out some but not all.

thank you

Ayrılık özlem duygularını artırır kalbi sevgiyle doldurur!....
  ... longing emotions, absence makes the heart grow fonder  (??)

Separation increases longing emotions and fills heart with love.

     Senin kalbin de öylemi?
     In your heart? is that so?

Is your heart so too? 

evet benim kalbimde öyle!...
   yes indeed in my heart

Yes my heart is so too.

onumuzdeki hafta Turkiye´deyim sen Istanbul´demisin hala bro?
  next week, i´m in turkey, are you still in istanbul?? (correct)

Pls let me know what is correct and what is not. thanks. dancerdee

Şimdi gitmem lazım beni için orada bir kimse bekliyor.

I have to go there is someone waiting for me over there.

Thank You